I’m still in shock. I’m heartbroken.
My gf and I have been dating for 4 years, we live together. During that time she has been obsessed with a very minor YouTube musician. He has a few videos with a couple million views, and a small following. During our entire relationship she has always claimed that he was her “exception”. I always assumed it was a joke, I’d fire right back with my celebrity crush.
Well he went on tour and played in the city near us at a small venue. She went with a coworker to see him. After the concert she didn’t come home that night or answer my texts, I assumed she slept over the coworkers since she lives closer to the venue.
She came home the next morning and didn’t talk about the concert much. I asked questions and got vague answers which was odd, I assumed she was tired. Later that day she broke the news to me. It was bizarre. She said it with a smile on her face as though I was going to be happy and excited for her. I am heartbroken. I was yelling, we were both crying. She said she didn’t know how I’d react, but she didn’t think it would be this extreme. She said I always knew he was her exception. I didn’t think she was serious.
I am currently staying in a motel and I don’t know what to do. I love her so much, but I cannot think about her without thinking about what she did. She has tainted my memory of her. I cannot help but think that clearly she does not love me unconditionally like she claims she does, because this is not love. Clearly I am not the one she is obsessing over, even though she is the one who I have always obsessed over. If I am not enough for her then I don’t know if I ever will be. And it clearly seems as though I am not enough for her. I am lost. I am hurt. I am alone.
EDIT: just wanted to thank everybody so much for the support. This blew up like I never imagined and the support that flew in was unbelievable. I’m hurt and still heartbroken, I don’t know if anything will heal this. But I was never expecting this amount of support. Thank you to everybody.
[–]user_miki32 points33 points34 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Exception,?!!!!who the fuch taught them there are exceptions for fucking around,They give themselves a pass and say is exception and you should take it in the chin.Like life is video game.Out, go to your fucking exception to live with not with me.
Exception huh!
[–]Daman_198523 points24 points25 points (6 children) | Copy Link
And after all of that... He still loves her.
Charming.
Nothing to see here.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
When the guy is a cuck, what can you say? :/
[–]GoingCamaro 6 points7 points8 points (4 children) | Copy Link
It's not something you get over just like that after being with someone for four years. As much as we hate our feelings, they don't rectify as fast as the mind.
If your mom died tomorrow, would you be over it the following day? Similar concept.
[–]RPDunkleBomb2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
His mistake was trusting a bitch to reciprocate. Men love women, but women love children, and children love puppies.
[–]GoingCamaro 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That's essentially what it comes down to, yes.
[–]Daman_19851 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Are you really comparing the death of a beloved person (wich probably was for an accident or health problems) with the issue of someone be unfaithful (wich probably was a concius decision)?
Because the feelings aren't similar by any chance.
If I were the guy, I left the GF the first time she said that the celebrity was her "exception". And after she consumate the "exception" and she tells the guy... He still loves her, after all of that. Makes no sense, after that notice, the relationship must be shattered asap with the feelings.
[–]GoingCamaro -1 points0 points1 point (0 children) | Copy Link
They are different, but having been experienced with death and heartbreak, they function very similar. Men especially do not just stop loving a woman because she was unfaithful. There is a remorseful period. On the outside looking in, sure we could say how we would "get over it" or "stop living them" but we're not OP. We don't know how close he felt. We can try to understand, but the other key piece here is that people deal with losses differently as they also feel them differently.
[–]battyryder26 points27 points28 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Fucking hell boys, she told him with a damn smile on her face.!? What the actual fuck, she obviously views her little beta bucks as less than human. Absolutely no empathy or accountability. Four year relationship investment just casually pissed away. There is no point in committing to any of them.
[–]Oslo89419 points20 points21 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t date someone who idolizes a YouTube personality... “Celebrity” is a stretch
[–]hiroshimatruthbombs6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
He was in reach.
That’s why he was an exception. The reality is he was a chad possiblity.
The next guitarist at the local open mic night will be along soon........ and he will be an exception.
Simple hamster logic.
[–]CeascaDidGoodAndBad6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Imagine being cucked by a fucking youtube celebrity. I feel his pain tho. My ex had an unhealthy obsession for The Rock...
[–]Chad_Thunderfist5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
At least he walked away; we'll see how long it lasts
Every time I've heard someone/a couple say they get a pass if they could sleep with their celebrity crush, I pose this exact scenario to them in response. They always say 'nah I'd be ok with it, I mean I've got my crush too!". Ok, sure you say that now until it actually happens, and you get pissed off.
If you cant even claim to be faithful in hypothetical scenarios, I guarantee you cant do it when push comes to shove
[–]MinuteManLarry2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm surprised with how wacko Reddit is that the comments are telling him to break up with her
[–]Double_Cake2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
These whores ain’t loyal.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
[–]Communismsmellsbad1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I hope it was froggy fresh
[–]airmaildolphin1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Some of us learn the easy way. Some of us learn the hard way. Poor bastard.
Hopefully he will see this as a learning experience and be able to move on with his life. There is no future continuing as he was.
[–]MrMagtow1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Women and status. Women care about status. Women want warlords.
Warlords of money, or status, or power.
She's not yours. It was just your turn.
[–]abir069[S] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Wonder when guys will actually understand that in stead of living in a fairy tale
[–]LastRedshirt0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
well, thats normal. Celebs nowadays are the cheap rockstars of decades ago (or gladiators long time ago) ... reminds me of "The Dirt" (the movie about Mötley Crüe) ... women become groupies, if VIPs appear like gods from other worlds.
[–]Chakra_Devourer0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
For starter, pick yourself back up. Think of her as just another typical slut. She's not worth the effort to be sad over. Start planning your life without her.
Above all else, don't ever take the bitch back. Clearly you're not a priority in her life. Some lesser known youtube musician is the focus of her life, not you. Get rid of the bitch asap.