I see this is a lot here and have problems with this as well. First thing first, I think, is accepting red pill reality a.k.a. reality. How can you know how to move forward, if you don't know what the rules of the game are? Doesn't matter if they're fair or not, you have to accept them. Otherwise, you're just going to wallow and never make that first move. Stop waiting for the blue pill dream and stop thinking you'll ever have as much sex or as easily as girls do. It was never there and never will be, which is fucking awesome cause now we can live life for ourselves. It's scary, but I'm starting to see the confident and self fulfilled me on the other side and it's giving me so much hope. We're like elephants that had the rope tied down for so long, we won't leave even if the rope isn't tied down anymore. We are too scared to leave and have grown comfortable in the cage, even if it makes us miserable. Accept reality and they'll be so much to not be sad or mad about anymore.