What to do when feeling like complete garbage

801735 · 2019-06-19T01:18:02+00:00

What to do when feeling like complete garbage

Take yourself out, duuuuh. ]=) For a walk.

nopersonbestpal · 2019-06-19T01:24:06+00:00

Listen to the right people online and the right music to motivate yourself. Be the best person in the situation. Work harder than everyone. Make plans for yourself. Take time away from everything to think. Exercise. Stay focused and do what feels like the right thing every day. It's one day at a time mate.

ZekeTheOctopus · 2019-06-19T01:41:33+00:00

Hey man, sorry you’re going through that. My mom was a mentally ill feminist and insanely abusive so I feel you.

Looking back here’s what I wish I knew then. Don’t argue no matter what dumb shit she says. She’s looking for that fight as an emotional hit the same way a junkie is looking for their next hit.

Best thing to do is say something non-committal like ‘ ‘Oh I didn’t think of it that way’ ‘Thanks for sharing’ ‘That’s interesting, let me think about it and get back to you.’

Then go do what you were going to do anyway and don’t tell her. Women exploit motherhood and the natural desire you have to love your mom. Unfortunately when they’re abusive you don’t have that luxury. You have to put you first always.

You want to become like Teflon where whatever shit she’s going to throw at you slides off without leaving a trace. This seems hard, and to start it is, but once you’ve practiced it you can walk through hell and come out unscathed.

Find a job and a mentor and beat down their doors. If they tell you not to come back, send em a thank you note anyway. Be a pest.

What are you into? Call every man in your town that does that thing and ask for an informational interview. Ask them about the job. Tell them you’re looking for a mentor to help get you started. Ask if you can keep mentoring them.

Learn a skill. Coding, construction, cars it doesn’t matter pick something, anything and go after it. You’ll have plenty of time later to do other stuff. You need a skill and income right now.

Don’t tell your mom what you’re up to. She’ll probably try to sabotage it. If you’re underage and you trust the guy enough you can even tell him things aren’t good at home and you’re looking for a way to get out on your own ASAP. You don’t need to go into details. Just be humble and ask for their help.

Best of luck. Keep us posted.

LiveTheTruth321 · 2019-06-19T01:30:31+00:00

The only person the can you feel like shit is you. It sounds like you need to distance yourself from your mother. Might I suggest some research on narcissism and r/raisedbynarcissists.

Work on yourself. Get a job. Focus on making enough money to finally move out. This is your life and you gotta own it.

MikeyS2k · 2019-06-19T01:44:52+00:00

Read my dude... something great.

All the time.

Never ceases to amaze me how many men live their whole lives without experiencing even a tiny fraction of the mind-blowing avalanche of amazing literature.

PrinceRaj53 · 2019-06-19T09:28:19+00:00

she has a way to make me and my brother,even father feel like shit

So basically, you, your brother and father operate in your mother's frame and bend over for her like the sweet little doormat bitches that you are.

Great family you have there.

Well, for a start, why don't you start letting your mom know that you and your opinion exist in that house? Why not become a man and put her in her place? Oh I see, she's your mother and you "respecc" her.

Stop being a doormat bitch and start acting like a man. Just because she is your mother, that doesn't give her a green card to do any shit.

Man the fuck up and put her in her place. Let her know who you are.

When my father's brother(my uncle) married recently, his wife(my aunt) also did basically the same (we live in the same house). She also tried to do this shit on me as well. Father and his brother gave up and started being her doormat bitches. But I didn't. I started to put her in her place and soon enough she learned why she should behave properly.

A little background : I'm from an indian family. In our joint families, we give our aunts the same level of respect and treatment as do to our mothers.

Edit : what a reply. Sure, continue to "plan" and tolerate that shit. No one tolerates bullshit, does not matter how worse the situation is. If you dont know how to stand up for yourself, then you are part of the problem.

Name calling? A doormat bitch is the one who operates in someone else's frame because he doesn't have the courage to stand up for himself. I am not telling you to correct your mother or something, I am telling you to put her in her place. Do you like being treated like shit? Then thats your choice.

Actually you are a child who is looking for fee-fee boost in this subreddit, not advice, hence you are reacting like a child to my comment.

ShearStressin · 2019-06-19T01:19:23+00:00

Take your mind off the frustration and anger by taking a run. Working out works well too, but you may just want to get away for a bit. It helps man, trust.

That's just for the short term, long term you have to get out on your own.

capitaocaverna1 · 2019-06-19T01:42:30+00:00

Go to you tube and listen to Tom Leykis you're going to feel a lot better after that.

DT1726 · 2019-06-19T01:45:58+00:00

Psycho cybernetics

Watch it to find more details, but here is my advice from that book.

Acknowledge your failures but you must never dismiss your successes. Failures teach you to avoid failing again, but if you keep relieving past failures inside your mind, your self esteem will be hit hard. That's why you must never dismiss your successes, take 10~30 minutes everyday thinking about your past successes no matter how insignificant they are. Confidence is built upon successes, learn to appreciate your accomplishments and you will be set to have a healthy mind.

Feel pity for your mom. She's weak will and childish, too weak and childish to even take time reflecting on her character, these sort of weak people will never be able to to think independently or to accept truth and that's why you should never take them seriously.

Onlymgtow88 · 2019-06-19T04:47:37+00:00

I would say workout, and then listen to some philosophy. Learning to be non reactive to people’s bullshit has helped me to feel safe and in control. Don’t get me wrong I still consider them retarded and annoying I just don’t need to do anything about it.

Villagernumber9 · 2019-06-19T11:40:59+00:00

Thanks for everyone's tips and advice,lots of it will help me out should that type of thing happen again

Title	What to do when feeling like complete garbage
Author	Villagernumber9
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Date	June 19, 2019 1:16 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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