It's very simple, in my whole life (25) wanting anything romantic with women caused me problems. It caused me internal problems (hurt of rejection, fear of approach etc) and external (rival males, money, dealing with her expectations, keeping her happy). That's really all there is to it. It's a matter of what is better for you. Sometimes I head over to r/braincels and it's sad to see they make ZERO progress. I'm glad I learned from this community instead. here's to you!