So I just wanted to tell a story about something that just happened to me and maybe get some feedback from the community here. I met a girl about two weeks ago. She’s a very attractive and fit 23 year old. I’m 36. We went on several dates over the course of a week. She came out of a bad relationship a couple months ago and she told me she still hadn’t had sex since the breakup. She also mentioned that she’s only slept with about a dozen guys total. I didn’t ask, she just volunteered that information. She talked about wanting to settle down and start a family. She presented herself like a wholesome girl and overall she seemed like a good catch. During the week of going on dates sparks were flying. It was pretty obvious that we were at the beginning stages of falling in love. So after a week of dates we started sleeping together. The sex was amazing. She said I’m the best she’s ever had, and I believe her. Honestly she might be the best I’ve ever had. We spent two nights having sex and enjoying each other’s company. The following day I told her one of my oldest friends and his new wife were coming to town so I wouldn’t be able to see her for a few days. I didn’t see her for three days but during this time we were constantly sending each other cute texts and even some light sexting. So after my friend left town I asked her to meet me for brunch. This was about 72 hours after the last time we had sex. Over brunch she casually mentioned that she had slept with three different guys since I’d seen her last. I tried to brush it off and pretend it didn’t bother me, but I felt crushed inside. I went home and got really drunk. She came over that night and we had sex again. The following day I lost my cool and blew up on her about sleeping with the other guys. She said she really likes me but wanted some variety. She said she just isn’t ready to settle down with one person. We texted back and forth for two days talking about it. She felt it wasn’t a big deal and I was overreacting. I felt really hurt and disappointed by the whole situation. We decided to give each other some space but we’ve texted a few times. I know she still likes me and wants to maintain a casual sex relationship, but a friend told me he saw her at a bar with another guy last night. I think she’s literally sleeping with a different guy every night. But she’s hot and great in bed and I do still want to have sex with her. I’m just not sure how to proceed at this point. Honestly I’ve been an emotional wreck since I found out she’s sleeping with all these other guys. I did really like her. I just can’t believe how quickly everything changed. She went from wifey material to totally promiscuous the moment she left my sight. Any thoughts or insight on how to proceed? I’m definitely NOT going to get involved with someone so promiscuous, but I would like to keep her as a booty call. Also I’m morbidly fascinated by the psychology of what happened. My first guess was that had been dishonest about her past and she’s always been recklessly promiscuous, but if that were true she wouldn’t have told me about the 3 guys she just slept with. And I’ve dated promiscuous girls before and she really didn’t strike me as the type. I think the truth is she started falling in love with me and she freaked out and started sleeping with all these other guys in order to sabotage it. I’ve known girls who do this kind of self sabotaging behavior every time something good happens in their life. And her rapid flip-flop from putting out girlfriend vibes (at one point I had asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend and she said she did) to suddenly saying “I just want to be young and have fun, I don’t want a boyfriend, I just want to experience life blah blah blah” seemed like an indication of self sabotaging behavior.