Why do women feel entitled to a man’s success or resources?

My views on gender roles concerning men are pretty straightforward, in that a man is a protector and provider for the woman that he chooses to settle with...key word being “settle” meaning some indication of commitment being established. Among single/dating women, the notions of “my money is my money, and your money is my money” and “pay my bills first” are the pervasive undertones among women in their 20s and 30s concerning finances. Why is there such an attitude of entitlement toward what I have to offer, when as a men, I’m not entitled to a woman’s time, interest, or affection?

As a black man, I don’t know if this is the norm in other communities as I’ve exclusively dated black women in the past.I notice the expectation is that as men we are to serve up the world on a silver platter to women, even though they consistently fail to make the necessary commitments for such a reward, I mean, at any moment she can say “get lost” and make like a bandit, not having invested a penny in her own responsibilities for the duration of the engagement.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that defending this point as a man has left me shunned in my social circles as an undesirable mate; coming off as broke, selfish, cheap, etc. (none of which are the case). Adding to that, the argument that “women help their mates in the early stages too.) is null, as we have all learned, a male asking for financial support from a woman is “forbidden” behavior.

As stated before, my views are more of an understanding of what should be expected of a man AFTER commitment, not some test to determine if I’m a chump or willing to take care of another’s responsibilities for them. To drive the question home, why are we expected to lay our own dignity and sovereignty on the line by simply handing over the results of our hard work? How can we possibly be expected to accept this from a partner with no guarantee of security in a budding (or established) relationship?

Thanks