I’m 19 and I’m so happy I discovered this sub!

Me and my girlfriend of 3 years (including a long 6 month ‘break’ in which I got back with her - big mistake!) broke up around 3 weeks ago now.

Since the break up I’ve been focusing on myself (going gym, putting a greater importance on uni) and going out with friends. I’ve generally been more happy!

I’ve realised how blue pilled I was. I felt like constant anxiety going though and pressure put on by her and now I feel free. At this age, I expected there to be more sex (lucky if it happened once or twice a month) and I would always be the one to initiate.

I fucked up by always giving her the validation (through compliments) she wanted and getting her flowers and gifts (because apparently that’s what a gentleman does and it felt like if I didn’t get her anything then she’d be disappointed or some shit). I always responded quickly and there was constant communication during the day which I didn’t like and if I didn’t reply or didn’t communicate properly cause I was busy doing something then she’d say I’m cold or not to talk to me herself and literally force me to apologise even though I wouldn’t want to.

Before the relationship I would do sports every week and generally be active. But during the relationship I was being a lazy fat fuck and ordered food every time she’d want it (she wasn’t slim btw but wasn’t a land whale either) and most of the time spent would be laying down watching tv and basically not doing anything productive or anything I’d want to mostly.

It wasn’t all negative but I lost many friends during the time with her. I felt forbidden to go out with mates and she even made an ultimatum that if I go out with a certain friend (he’s basically a chad that fucks 9 and 10’s and we’ve been childhood friends and went to the same school etc) then she’d break up with me. I was fucking manipulated looking back at it.

Basically what I need advice in is how to get rid of feelings and shit. It was a long time and sometimes I feel empty but when I think of her I wanna puke.

Do I get rid of all the memories and pictures now or should I wait for time to pass? Btw I’m never ever getting back with her 100% but it kinda feels weird just destroying all those memories.

Also I’m not looking to get a proper girlfriend for atleast 6/7 years. I want to become a Chad (I’m 6’2 and starting to hit the gym so it might happen soon). I also need advice in regaining confidence in myself and how to do that post break up etc.

Thanks guys