Need some advice about hobbies/self improvement.

Sumo94 · 2018-08-05T08:24:18+00:00

Bro you’re just like me. I get bored with everything. I don’t pursue many things because I don’t want to find another thing that I’ll just stop doing.

My family would tell me I’m a quitter. Perhaps it has to do with my mental health. Not sure. All I’ve been doing is working out, meditating and monk. Hopefully it comes to me soon because I’m just feeling like I’m wasting my life.

laptopdragon · 2018-08-05T17:58:05+00:00

one of the most rewarding things I've recently done is planting seeds and watching stuff grow.

won't earn me any $, but it's nice to see things take root, and grow basically all by itself. I just add water.

it doesn't get boring b/c it only takes a few minutes a day at the minimum, and what usually happens is I get cought up, and stay outside longer without realizing it.

car23975 · 2018-08-06T05:34:29+00:00

Follow your heart and those who will support you on the way.

vetiarvind · 2018-08-07T16:29:21+00:00

I don't try to combine passion with work. Work a job which you're good at and pays you well. Work usually sucks. Most of my colleagues admit bouts of depression. People don't even hide it anymore, even though we laugh a lot and generally try to make work fun. It's just normal. Anyway, use the money and try to become financially independent eventually. Pursue your hobby on the side. Monetize it if possible, but I don't think it's practical mixing your hobby with work for most people.

avtarius · 2018-08-09T09:23:30+00:00

You are looking for something interesting that will make you money. Two problems with this approach : #1 Money is side effect of your providing value, #2 Making money is boring, spending it isn't.

Look for something which can make you money and you're capable of doing, or maintain a stable income while searching for something you like. Making money is a result of expanding your human network while providing it value, and you don't need to do the work yourself.

reduction-deduction · 2018-08-05T08:26:47+00:00

You seem to have depression. I fought my depression with faith in God(no religions attached). I just one day saw a video of a dude explaining how God really is and that changed my life.

Maybe you could meditate

dumblederp · 2018-08-05T09:28:42+00:00

Getting good at a hobby involves pushing through the boring part, unless you have natural talent. It sounds like you lack discipline or willpower. to maintain focus, even when its boring. You know what bro, sometimes life is gonna be boring. Being able to hold an inner flame of contentedness and discipline will see you through it.

khanrhyd · 2018-08-05T11:10:11+00:00

I am reminded of a couple of different quotes:

"If you don't want to be bored, then don't be boring."

If you just slide through life, then you will miss out on everything going on around you. The passion comes from desire. Don't worry about getting a hobby that you like, search for an end result that you want and then learn those sets of skills! Want to sit on a lake in a boat that you made? Learn woodworking. Want to hang a hand forged sword on your livingroom wall? Take up bladesmithing. Want to feel the wind in your hair and see parts of the world that no one has seen in your lifetime? Take up travel. Start small, learn the basics and keep your goal firmly in mind. It's not about the first thing you do, it's about the goal. When your goals are big enough to move you forward, the mundane becomes beautiful if it helps move you forward.

"Work isn't fun, it's work. It's called 'WORK' for a reason and not 'happy fun time' so get in there and WORK!"

Your job may be fulfilling, but that's not it's purpose. It's purpose is to allow you to exchange your skilled hours for their dollars. That's it. Find a job that allows you to devote the most of your skills and hours for the maximized return of dollars. Your job shouldn't be the end, it's the means to the end. The vehicle that will allow you to reach your goals. You need to sit down and find out what it is that you want to accomplish, then work towards it a little every day. Keep moving forward in your job. Learn. Grow. Expand. Sometimes it means switching divisions, sometimes employers, sometimes careers. Just keep pushing forward and don't EVER lose sight of the reason you show up.

For a long time, my goal at work has been: pay bills, eat, replace worn out clothes. I got that, then I added 'pay off debt' to my list. Now that it's almost done it's time to upgrade to 'create investment capital' The job has never been my goal. My Freedom has. It's what drags me out of bed every morning that I would rather stay in bed. It's what puts me in bed every night instead of staying up all night on Reddit. I crave freedom like a drunkard craves that shot of whiskey, so I work towards it every day.

So, my advice to you is this: Spend some time on yourself. Sit down and think not about what hobby could bring you some joy. But focus on what dreams you had that got snuffed out, what goals you had that you let slip away, what aspirations you discarded for being too fanciful. focus your thoughts and energy on them. Breathe life and fire into them and see what direction they begin to drive you. Once you get that direction, feed the fires and never stop fanning the flames.

Good luck and God speed brother.

Jason4mRook · 2018-08-05T12:51:06+00:00

You are looking for money from your hobbies 1 was

Jason4mRook · 2018-08-05T13:03:44+00:00

The real problem here is your mindset, how? You are trying to develop new hobbies for the sake of money, so you are programming your brain to expect money from your hobbies, when you don't get any monitory gains your mind will automatically makes you feel bored. This explains your boredom with developing new hobies. Solution is simple. You need a strong emotional connection with your hobbie, like your childhood dream, remember it takes years of practice to be a master at something. Make goals and when your reach your golas make another and never be satisfied.

BangkokBeats · 2018-08-05T14:33:47+00:00

Your going at it from the wrong direction find something you enjoy doing not necessarily for financial gain, could be anything a martial art, climbing, whatever you enjoy. Preferably something where you meet people it’s great for networking, improves your confidence and it may be possible to monetise it later.

re_all · 2018-08-09T15:47:27+00:00

Look upon the world, and see its worth...

The world will show you a dressed up version of events, not unlike social media. The filter of perception is a strange thing. We see the the dressed up moments of reality, and never what it takes to get the gratification.

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For instance; photography is the closest thing I have to a hobby. And to date, I have visited many countries, and many places of note in the US. The photos I take show beautiful landmarks, impressive expanses of scenery. But what it doesn't show are the hours upon hours of travel that it took to get there.

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Recently, I drove six hours to see the Great Salt Lake. As many pictures in google show that it is a beautiful place, I saw nothing more than a let-down. It was filthy, smelly, and the air was so hot. The sand was crawling with brine flies that made your skin itch, and of the dozens of people there, only two were actually inside the water. I couldn't even fathom going in, so repulsed I was.

And after 40 minutes of taking pictures, I left... and drove six hours to get back.

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In many circumstances; that is exactly how it goes. I mean, I could have stayed in a hotel and spent even more money to see the sights of Salt Lake City... but why?

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And yet, when I show people my pictures, they are all like "Wow! That is so awesome! I am so jealous of you!"

And I am thinking in my head "What the hell are you envious of?"

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The point I am trying to make is; have expectations parallel reality, not what the world wants to show you.

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You watch a movie or a TV show about making music, and you get something like the movie "August Rush." Some prodigy kid magically gets a seat at Julliard, and just wipes the competition away with his compositions.

Are you fcking kidding me? That's the exception*... that is not real life.

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Real life is a mountain of crumpled paper with failed lyrics and musical scores.

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Real life is pulling your hair out in frustration of something that is just in front of you, but evades conscious thought.

But the world only wants to show you the end of the struggle.

The struggle is what is real, the struggle is what makes the breakthrough worth it.

Anything that is worth something will take everything you've got.

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The question is; did you give everything to anything you wanted?

re_all · 2018-08-05T14:37:57+00:00