I think that this book must have caused her to loose some friends in the lesbian/feminist movement.

This is from the book: Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man by Norah Vincent:

"As Curtis and I said goodnight and walked away, I found myself thinking about rejection and how small it made me feel, and how small most men must feel under the weight of what women expect from them. I was an actor playing a role, but these women had gotten to me nonetheless. None of these interactions mattered. I had nothing real at stake. But still, I felt bad. So how must men feel when it’s a true encounter and everything in the game seems stacked against them? They make the move, or the women bluff them – without tipping their hands – into making the move. The guys step out (stupidly, it now seems to me) into the space between, saying something irreversible and frank – a compliment or an outright indication of interest – and most of the time the women step away, or laugh disdainfully, and the guys are left with their asses in the wind. "

"That’s the sport,and men are the suckers. Women guard the gate and men storm it. Natural selection is brutal, and women do, in the immortal words of Jim Morrison, seem wicked when you’re unwanted."

“Almost inevitably, they were carrying the baggage of previous hurts at the hands of men, which in many cases had prejudiced them unfairly against the male sex. For them, as for so many of us, romantic hurt equaled romantic blame, and because they were exclusive heterosexuals, romantic blame was assigned more often to the sex, not the morals, of the person inflicting the pain.”

“The women who were hostile to me made me mad, and that made me want to be hostile to them. I can’t imagine men in the same position not reacting the same way. And so the self-perpetuating cycle of unkindness and discontent would go on and on, feeding on itself. These women were mostly hostile in the first place because they felt that men’s bad behavior had made them so, and the men they met behaved badly because hostility breeds contempt.”