DV Help. Please

SporkTornado · 2014-02-28T06:32:27+00:00

get a lawyer now, do not wait. You need professional legal council.

DougDante · 2014-02-28T12:52:11+00:00

I am losing my mind from this insanity.

This is very traumatic. You need to speak with your friends and family and probably with a counselor. It's OK to ask your family for help.

Also see the FAQ.

mandysteve · 2014-02-28T22:31:33+00:00

The Criminal Defense Specialist says . . .

1) Hire a lawyer - do not handle on your own.

2) IF you have a No Contact order, do NOT contact in any way, shape, form or fashion, but save any and all text messages or emails for your lawyer.

3) Make sure your lawyer is 100% criminal defense, and if your state has a certification (specialization) program, go with a Board Certified. There is a dramatic difference.

4) Pay your legal fee up front and in full - your case will go to the front of the line. Those who fee dicker, slow pay/no pay and ask the same question 8 times 14 different ways in 26 emails and 9 phone calls (a day) go to the back of the line - and resented. They will not tell you this, I just did.

5) Do not dress "nice" for court. Dress precisely for court. In my jurisdiction, I require clients to follow written dress instructions and NO facial hair - a certain percent of the population (including judges who rule on your legal motions, prosecutors who decide to pursue charges or abandon them, and juries) will be suspicious of someone wearing the wrong clothing or having facial hair. It isn't fair, but it is very real.

6) Write out a written fact pattern report. I require all of my clients to complete one over a four (4) day period of time, and to prepare another one after the Discovery Exhibit comes in (they always get a copy of everything).

7) Buy one book and one audio program per month to cope with stress. Read five minutes upon arising, and five before retiring. Listen to the audios daily. You can also use Youtube for free videos. If I show up for court as a technical 10 but an emotional 4, you would be pissed. Show up without reading and listening or in the wrong outfit for court, and we will have an extremely intense discussion about "getting it." This is your freedom, life and future. Your first is Life Strategies by Phil McGraw, audio and book. Not many know this, but he was one of the top (if not THE top) trial psychology strategist before he was a celebrity.

Do each and every one of these things.

Sasha_ · 2014-02-28T17:37:34+00:00

http://cordellcordell.com/offices/north-carolina/

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