So I just found out that fetishizing is a thing people actually care about. My immediate thought was it's kind of a matter of perspective.

If you're a person who can have sex almost at will, sure you might have a problem with that.

But if you're a person that receives so little interest from the opposite sex that you barely notice it when you get it, being fetishized seems like a boon.

I'm a black male. We don't even need to go into the stereotypes, we're all well versed. Matter of fact, we're probably the MOST fetishized men. Those stereotypes are probably a good chunk of the reason I've ever dated/hooked up with ANY non black women.

Am I saying ppl's feelings don't matter or that all black men feel like me? No. But what I am saying is THAT IT MUST BE NICE TO BE IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU'RE SO SOUGHT AFTER THAT YOU GET TO CRITICIZE THE REASON WHY.

Much like the way that it you have money for food you can be picky. But if you're starving, you tend to care a whole lot less that it's not exactly your favorite meal, or that the expiration date was a couple days ago.