No means no!

I’m sitting in my car right now and I’m still trying to process this. Came over had a few drinks with her, her cousin and friend, her cousin and friend went to bed. Her and I went to her room, we started having sex. She had more to drink than I had for sure. I was skeptical but she kept saying she is fine and I went along. I’ve told her no pulling on my beard and no digging nails into my back. She kept doing this and I was getting turned off. I said stop I need a moment. She started choking me got on top and tried putting it in but I was soft. She wouldn’t stop after me saying stop several times. I got very uncomfortable. I stood up and she pushed me against the wall choking me grabbing my dick. I said you need to learn what no means. She got all upset. I was trying to leave and she kept hugging me not letting me go. Kept saying for me to stay the night. Had to pry her arms off me and jogged to my car. Am I tripping? I feel violated. I kept asking her to be quite cuz her kid and her friends kid was in living room sleeping and at one point I heard the kid calling for her mom. I said you gotta try to be quite. She just wouldn’t stop and I had enough. Is it wrong if I stop hooking up with her? Huge red flag for me. No means no for guys but for girls it means keep going? I’m still shaking.