I'm a male science teacher who has the opportunity of teach the sexual and reproductive rights in a girls-only school.

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I am a physicist, and I have always love teaching, and specially teaching the whole picture of science (political, religious, economic, social, personal implications of science, and the other way around). Luckly I got hired in a school that sees science lmwith that approach, so science class is not split between physics, biology and chemistry -as it is usually done in my country- but it is one integrated class. That's how I end up in one of the SexEd classes (13/14 yo).

I find myself comfortable in that place. I have learnt a lot for teaching a good class. Previously I read some books on feminism, and feminists approach to education so I feel this as a space where I can share with my female students this knowledge. Also I have been training myself to learn about SexEd, not just STI and ovulatory cycle, but about sexual and reproductive rights and how to prevent violence and so on.

But, and here is my doubt, sometimes I feel inappropriate, like mansplaing my students. For example, when I talk about menstruation, sexual violence on the streets or online harrassment, all of those are things that I know be reading and listening, but I do not live, so I feel weird suggesting strategies for facing them or explaining them what's the root of it. I am a male saying : Be feminist , live your sexual and reproductive life freely, with autonomy and responsibility. Am I doing something wrong? Some ideas for improving ?

EDIT: I saw frequent concerns about the talking about sexual violence (e.g. streets or online). This has been my approach (as I answered in one comment):

'The main approach is recognizing situations that are be violent and understanding that they are not right. We talk a lot about consent, like consensual touching, sexting, or penetrative sexual practices. And strengthening the communication skills, like saying no, share emotions assertively and freely, being cautious on the information they share on internet, etc. In some case, in private some students have approach to me to share their situations, and what a I have done (any feedback will be well recieved) is to help them identify the emotions that the situation generated on them, help the identify if they wanted that to happen and if they want to keep doing it, and being the sandbox to elaborate the speeches or plan towards the situation. ( idk if I am making myself clear, I am not English native and translating this is difficult) If there is anything illegal or if there is actual risk for somebody's wellbeing , the school have protocols. My role is to report the situation to the learning and emotional support team.'