I'm sorry mods, if this isn't allowed. I'm just not sure what to do. My husband of 1.5 years keeps getting frustrated with me when I try to submit to him, he thinks it's supposed to be "egalitarian" but it's like he only wants me to pretend I've been lurking for a while on here and other similar subs and while I love him, he seems to want to pretend he is a feminist. He is so happy when I do just what he says, but lately he doesn't seem to believe I mean it. Does anyone have any advice? I want him to be confident that I want to follow his lead, but he doesn't seem to want to lead!

Please don't tell me I need to leave him, that is not an option and I won't do it. I want to be his perfect helpmeet, but I'm just so confused as to what he wants!

He has gotten so angry lately when I defer to him, how can I let him know I feel most comfortable and confident when HE feels confident leading us? Please help. Prayers are welcomed!!