My dad keeps shit testing me what to do?

Red-Curious · 2017-09-15T04:59:29+00:00

I doubt he's s-testing you. The purpose of s-tests is for women to see if you're a strong enough man to be worth their attraction (usually subconsciously). Your dad isn't trying to get attracted to you. He doesn't want to have sex with you.

He's used to having a position of authority. You becoming your own man defies his position. He's testing your frame, but it's not the same type of test as women throw because it's for different motivations. Likewise, you don't respond the same way because you don't want to make your dad sexually attracted to you.

Also, you need to respect the fact that he has legitimate power over you. If your boss starts giving you crap, you don't try to out alpha him the way you would a girl. Again, you're not trying to have sex with him (unless you're working for a hot chick and you really are). You don't want to risk your job to prove a point. Your dad is a resource to you. Trying to out-power him is a quick way to lose what favor he might give you. Instead, he'll probably say, "Fine, go your own way. Don't come crawling back to me until you've learned some humility."

Long story short: Communicate your positions clearly, but respect his authority. If he's giving you crap without a legitimate basis, let him know - but do it with a smile, not in an argumentative way. Master the art of fogging. But perhaps the most important thing you can do is to show him how to be the type of man you want to follow - someone you can respect. Do this through your actions, yes, but don't be afraid to have a conversation with him about why you have trouble respecting him. Don't mention RP, but do let him know: "If you want to get through to me, this is what I need to see in you to know you're worth listening to. If your life is headed a direction I don't want to go right now, I'm not going to follow your lead."

redditJ5 · 2017-09-14T23:34:52+00:00

Most important thing you can do it hold your frame. Your dad has at least 2x the experience by age, he's seen a lot of fads, he's calling you out. You have to hold it together, enjoy his shit test.

What I would do, it approach all that tail you can get while you are at college, slay as much as you can, network as much as you can, and take your pants off while doing it. I hate getting smail trails on my pants.

UEMcGill · 2017-09-15T13:05:05+00:00

He's your dad, not your mother. He's challenging you to hold your end of the bargain. Instead of treating it like a shit test shut the fuck up instead.

How do you keep your dad from busting your balls? Be a man. Men get shit done. Talk is talk.

Do you have chores? Get them done without asking. Do you have homework? Same there. When you say "I'll do xyz" do you do it right away or does mommy nag the fuck out of you until you do it?

Maybe your dad is just an asshole, but maybe his bullshit meter has gone off and he doesn't trust all the big talk coming out of you is anything more than bluster.

Respect is earned. You've had 19 years of being a boy, just because you read a few books doesn't make you a man. Let your actions prove it to him.

Rian_Stone · 2017-09-15T13:14:03+00:00

You're 19 and you live at home? I don't think anything your dad does is responsible for that one

Gawernator · 2017-09-24T06:54:54+00:00

How exactly is he bluepill?

BlastCorporation · 2017-12-20T00:53:47+00:00

A man can't shit test you what are you talking about. Just ignore him.

Title	My dad keeps shit testing me what to do?
Author	QuasarAL
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	September 14, 2017 8:58 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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