Introduction

I originally posted this on asktrp because I didn't have enough rep. But I feel compelled to share my story.

First of all, I don't claim to be an expert and I am learning every day. This is just what I have noticed in my journey, take my words with a grain of salt. Experienced redpillers might not gain much from this post, but I hope I can provide some insight and inspiration for any new guys here.

I'm a tall, somewhat intelligent, Anglo-Saxon dude from Australia but none of this was worth much because I was underweight, had zero game, and was just boring. I discovered TRP sometime last year after realising that what I was being told in regards to women and what I was experiencing were completely different; this culminated after beta orbiting a girl and wondering why things were only platonic between us. Funnily enough, this girl apologised to me post-monk mode for "treating me the way she did"...

I went into monk mode for 6-12 months at the end of 2015. Managed to get myself into the gym and gained approximately 20kgs, gathered some decent savings (for future investment), and figured out a direction for my future. Certainly, not the most memorable time of my life, but monk mode was important as it helped me realign myself and set the stage for future improvement.

The Paradigm Shift

The paradigm shift took place over the course of last week and ultimately climaxed last weekend.

A girl (let's call her Lucy) who I was dating for a bit and caught feelings for (mistake I know, but it's an experience I am now thankful for) made her relationship status with another dude official this week merely two weeks after things went south between us (I soft-nexted because she was too much to handle and she had too many "guy friends"). Naturally I started to become disappointed but I figured fuck that noise. Then something clicked in my head. Essentially, I realised that I have my whole life ahead of me and I have so much more to accomplish; I'm only going to get smarter, richer, and stronger. And if anyone wants to come along for the ride then cool, otherwise more time for me. When this came to me I was literally smiling; it was kind of bizarre.

To add to this, on the weekend I went out with some friends to celebrate end of semester. I ran into Lucy. Now this is the interesting part, the old me would have followed her around like a sad, lost puppy (just like her ex was doing that night). But the current me had fun with my boys, flirted with Lucy, practiced my kino on her, and made out with her a few times. I spent the remainder of the night opening girls and achieved similar results and a few numbers as well as a few 'fails'. I also talked/partied with friends and people I just met. Overall it was a good night.

After reflection on this specific night and the week itself; I finally understood that Red Pill knowledge (when applied properly) is emancipating and not Sisyphean or bitter. The Red Pill knowledge allows you to be a free man in a world full of men who are slaves to the feminine imperative and everything this involves e.g. chasing material goods, lavish dates, offering her your time at your own expense and so forth.

Personal Lessons Learnt

  • First, let's get the TRP maxims out of the way. Lift, read, dress like you're worth something, work towards future/current financial gain, set goals, approach.

  • Don't cast your pearls before swine. Save your value (time, money, etc.) for people that truly prove their worth to you. Usually this is good friends and family, seldom this is women.

  • Escalate, escalate, isolate. This one took a while to sink in for me... You won't get anywhere with a woman if you can't even put your hands on her. Don't be afraid to put your arm around or caress the arm of a girl you're interested in and depending on how she responds work from there. And eventually take her away from the crowd/group. Which is when the fun begins.

  • Take a hint you dummy! This also took some time as well. A girl will never straight up message you or approach you. But will do things such as like your Instagram photos, stare/smile at you, ask your friends about you, etc. If you think she might be keen (or even if she may not seem keen) go for it! What do you have to lose?

  • You have two ears and a mouth use them in that proportion. Talk to everyone and don't forget the best conversationalist asks more questions and talks less. Furthermore, I have found that you can learn something or gain insight from just about everyone. That big dude with a beard is a marine biologist, that quiet guy at the back of your programming lecture can show you how to write more efficient code, and so on. Building networks are important.

  • Never be afraid to lose something. Better yet, be prepared to lose something. Whether this is a physical object or a relationship. The only constant in your life is yourself.

  • Wake early if you want another man’s life or land. No lamb for the lazy wolf. No battles won in bed. A good night’s sleep and a day of accomplishing your goals is often more fulfilling then spending the night chasing pussy.

  • Finally, have fun. Life's too short to mope around. Set and accomplish goals, and celebrate your victories when they do come.

This must be mentioned as well: a massive thank you to everyone here who has been a part of my awakening.