I was telling her casually why I don't want to marry(not going into red pill stuff), and then she said that the two most important things in a woman's life are a house and children of her own. Then came being loved by her husband(my parents' marriage was never good), and other stuff like friendships etc.

NOWHERE did she say that one of the important things to her was loving her husband(though my father is a dutiful husband). Just reinforcing what I read on Rational Male: women are utterly incapable of loving a man the way he expects to be loved, and the hierarchy goes like this - Man->Woman->Child->Pet.