Having an abundance mentality doesn't mean nothing if your woman doesn't believe you have abundance.

Now before you just say "just have actual abundance bro, go out and flirt with other chicks in her presence, or even better, actually get another chick so your gf/wife get jealous and think you're high value and they'd get turned on and now desire you much more", let me say these facts:

FACT: not every man has the ability to "spin plates". some are lucky to even get a gf, and some are lucky to get a gf above their leagues. in such cases, the girl KNOW you either cant get another gf, or you can't get another gf as good looking as her.

and if you do try to cheat, and maybe even actually end up getting one? guess what, women have way more options, they don't HAVE to stay with you and they KNOW it. they can choose to leave you in a heartbeat, turn on Tinder, and get hundreds of matches in a single day, even for the ugly chicks it's the same.

and before you say "oh but if you did get another one, then the current one leaving wouldn't be a big deal right?" WRONG! Because what would be your plan for this new one then? Flirt with another chick or get another new one? Then the circle just repeats itself, so whats the point? Might as well just stick to the original one and saving all these troubles huh?

And now let's talking about acting alpha/macho. I don't think it works for every man either.

Why? Simply switch position. Would you feel more attracted to a girl if she's nasty or mean to you, or you get turned on more by a girl who's nice to you?

My own theory is girls don't want assholes. The assholes tend to get most girls, not because they're assholes, but because they're maxxed in some way (good looks, height, money, status, social skill and so on), and that's what attracts the girls to them. Since they're attractive to girls, they have options, they have TRUE ABUNDANCE, so they can AFFORD to act like assholes and get away with it.

In other words, girls go for them DESPITE they're assholes, not because they're assholes.

A low SMV men who act like an asshole wouldn't make him more attractive, in fact, it makes him even worse.