I found this post on youtube by a youtuber i follow named “Jem Veda” and this post hit me right some where. So, i am posting it here-

Compulsive addictions DO NOT solve your problems. 🚫

All they do is help you suppress the emotions you’re “incapable” of dealing with.

The problems are still there, and in some cases, they’re recurring problems in your life.

If they’re recurring problems, it means you’ll keep using the addiction to cope because the problem keeps happening. You’re not solving it from the root at all.

This is how the vicious cycle happens.

Addictions keep you emotionally stunted, being unable to cope with negative emotions in a healthy manner.

Someone could be 40 years old and still have an addiction they developed at 18 because their ability to regulate negative emotions is stunted.

Addictions rob you of learning deeper emotional awareness and applying the right strategies to validate, process, and change your emotions.

Also, there’s usually a tendency to judge your negative emotions to the point where you don’t even want to identify them (but that’s such an important step).

Scientific experts talk about the neurological activity going on in the brain with addictions like dopamine and neural pathways, but that’s the END RESULT of a behavior. You still have control over yourself before the behavior happens, even if you’re motivated to do it again.

Action follows emotions, which follow thoughts and beliefs.

You have to get clear on what the addiction is helping you cope with and face your problems head-on. You end up solving them faster this way.

Lastly, have at least 1-2 supportive person in your life. See the light at the end of the tunnel, and immerse yourself in a deep goal. Change your environment. Think about all the people that have turned their lives around with addiction.

Understand this is your journey, and refrain from comparing yourself to others. Maybe you feel like you’ve wasted a lot of time—forget that and start a new chapter.

There are 70-year-olds running marathons after all, they make no excuses.

Wishing you the best.

PS, the next video is being edited. I’ve had a busy last few weeks, but this new video should be out early next week.

Thanks for your patience everyone. 🤓

It’ll be on “How to predict human behavior”

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