tl;dr

Went for a dancing party with new crew, was fighting with approach anxiety, later applied jealousy game. Wasn't shit tested almost at all, got utterly ignored after trying to #-close. Still feeling proud though, but also a little bit confused. If you felt any cringe during any moment and stopped reading, just skip to last paragraph in Action section and/or Lessons taken.

About me

22y/o, in high school got approached by 2 girls with whom I made kind-of-relationship, but since then I've had MGTOW inclinations - I was aware about AWALT but it just made me not want to date anyone even more. Last year finally got out of this mindset, got tinder, went out with 10-ish girls without almost ANY success - guess I'm good at texting game, but IRL it's all gone. Found out TRP while trying to look for a solution. Right now I'm focusing more on becoming more social and developing IDGAF mindset than gaming girls - I'm still fighting with my height insecurity, introverted nature and having less friends in my city than I'd like to.

Background

So last month after 3 years of living with a bunch of friends not really willing to go out and socialize with anyone outside our social circle, I've decided to leave them. Got assigned a new roommates in a student dorm - yes, in case of logistics it's a pain, but there are some positive sides - I've met lots of neighbouring girls, and one of my roommates is very social, let's call him X. On saturday X threw a big dancing party in our dorm - I've decided to give game a shot and see if monking all holidays helped even little. Action takes place mostly on a rented hall on ground floor, and a little bit in my room few floors higher.

Action

Officially party started at 8 p.m., yet I told X I'd be late and did not really explain what I was about to be doing - actually I just went to a concert I really wanted to hear with 2 of my buddies. After the gig, around 10 p.m. I go straight to my room, leave my jacket, take some entry-fee alcohol, meet my female neighbor (let's call her A), and second roommate and we decided to go together. We talked with X a little, then with ourselves, I decided to leave them and approach other people I've met since last month. After a little chit-chatting decided to hit a dancefloor - knew some girls but at this exact moment an anxiety hit me hard. I acknowledged it, yet still my next 30 minutes looked like this:

  • searching for a buddy to have a shot with (yeah, I know TRP's attitude towards alcohol, but that's how we party in my country)
  • dancing with A (she's introverted and didn't know most people like me, so with her my anxiety was gone)
  • getting back to my room for a moment, for whatever reason - better than looking at all the dancing girls I couldn't approach, I guess

So finally I've hit on a first girl that came by, chit-chatted a little, then another, went for a shot or two, then met B - blonde, very slim, in a nice, red dress. God damn, B was for sure the best dancer there. I normally keep a little distance, but she just tried to bring me closer, so we hug, make fun out of it, lots of kino, chit chatting about her, X and other people. Damn, for a moment I felt like in those infield recordings on youtube. Night is young, so I decided to hit her up later to preserve my IDGAF attitude. Some shots here and there, mostly hanging with one of the guys that I felt comfortable talking to (guess it's a mistake, but that's how I always did it as an introvert). Then I met C - the main girl of this FR - gorgeous body, perfect make-up, wore black trousers, blouse and high boots. Not as good dancer as B, but waaay more attractive. We've been also kinoing a little, but not as much as with B, chit-chatting. I've decided to choose between one of those 2 later on, and keeping jealousy game on. For next hour I've been ignoring both, I even picked up a girl C was dancing with. I socialized, left for a cigarette break with A, met some random guys outside of our party. Then I noticed B leaving. "Yeah, whatever", I thought, "still got C".

Apparently music had to be made very silent because of dorm rules (we've been visited by guards once before), so the "afterparty" started. Most people left, C was still there, talking to some other guy. Didn't see anyone known, went to my room last time, came back, C sits alone by her phone - time for me to strike. "Excuse me but what the fuck are you doing" - I asked. Two pairs were still dancing, so I went "let's join them". She replied that she's too tired, so I said "cool, guess I'll also chill then" (was that a shit test, by the way?). It was already 3 a.m. so I slowed the tempo down - I didn't go sexual, but did some kino here and there - I will be meeting all those people later on, so didn't want to gain wannabe fuccboi status.

When I noticed the after is going to end, I did this thing for the first time in my life - I asked her out while being completely relaxed. "Okay, look. I like chatting with you, lets talk more over a soup one day, just give me some contact". She asked about why soup, I told her there's a place with a very good one. Suddenly someone came, and she got away without even answering. IDGAF, joined the rest, started socializing and teasing other of girls a little bit. Damn, I and X got complimented about our looks by one of other guys in front of everybody, I've made a gay joke about it. Okay guys, time to get some sleep. C had to take a jacket she left in our room, so we went there. She hug X and just left, completely ignoring me. Damn, I was pissed af for like 5 seconds, but managed to went IDGAF even after this. A thing that baffled me was that I didn't feel like being shit tested even once by both B and C. I don't feel any kind of oneitis to any of them though, when trying to fall asleep I was thinking more about

Lessons taken?

Yeah guys, so what should I take from this party? Any bad behaviors you noticed? I'd deeply appreciate constructive criticism on any part of this story. Only things I could've thought of are:

  • increasing kino and game on dancefloor
  • picking a better moment to ask for digits
  • taking girl outside to have a little bit more intimate time together
  • decreasing alcohol consumption
  • trying to be more social with everyone, not just people I feel comfortble with

Despite fuck-up, I still feel very proud of myself because I managed to be completely calm during all the interactions with girls. I still feel like I made tons of progress compared to my previous tinder experiences.