I'd advise reading my previous post 'Perception' before reading this.

First and foremost. TRP is full of men who want to cling on to their own perception in order to stroke their own ego. These men are saying to themselves that they're an alpha, why? It gives them a boost to their own ego. It feels good. You may be one of these men reading this and thinking that you don't stroke your own ego, in order to STROKE YOUR OWN EGO. Well, do you want to find out if you do or not? 

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you repetitively delete your posts/comments on here and askTRP? 

  • Do you try to justify your actions to others?

  • Can you accept being wrong?

  • Do you insult others?

  • Do you post and feel worried about what other members of TRP are going to say?

  • Do you live your life by what other people say here by a dime?

  • Do you suffer with severe cognitive dissonance about the theory of TRP?

  • Do you care so much about being 'alpha'?

If you say yes to any of these. YOU'RE STROKING YOUR OWN EGO.

Many will cling on to their perception no matter what, why? Because they're afraid of being wrong, and therefore emotionally hurt. That's EGO.

Few will challenge their own perception. To be fair, everyone who actively participates in TRP has challenged their own perception. But there's another hurdle, breaking free from the "I'm so alpha" bullshit here, ESPECIALLY in askTRP.

You need to make your own rules. At the moment, you are following rules of others who are stroking their own ego too, just like you. You are the blind being lead by the blind.

Now, it's important to remember that not ALL people in TRP are blind. Notable examples would be the mods and EC's.

Now, it's perfectly OK if you're one of these men who are blind, because it's your current perception. Your perception in the future is going to be different from now, but only if you are able to challenge your own perception, and other people's perceptions. It is vital for a person to be able to do this, as this is how they move on.

Side note: Your perception is another name for your frame.

You can control other people's perception to a certain extent, by perceiving yourself as this and that, which is fine. But you shouldn't care about their perception of you. This is what outcome independence TRULY means.

If you're worried about other people's perception of you. That means you're not being true to yourself. You're not making your own rules. You're living by other people's rules.

On to my next point:

TRP IS JUST A TOOLBOX. STOP WORSHIPPING A FUCKING TOOLBOX.

You decide what you do with the toolbox.

What you create is up to you.

Credit to The1ndex for that quote.

People here say this for a reason, you know?

Another point:

The EC's on here are not gods, or super-ultra-mega-fucking Chads. Sure, they might have a lot of 'Chad' traits. But they also have 'beta' traits. They are human beings, just like you and me.

Speaking of EC's, I messaged Heathcliff the other day, and he explained to me that being stuck in the manosphere means that you've hit a wall in your development. You need to leave to enter the next stage of learning and understanding. He goes further mentioning the Pareto principle, 80% of the men here get stuck stroking their own ego, while only 20% actually learn something.

Lessons learned:

  • Stop saying that you're 'alpha'. You're seeking validation.

  • Stop making 'red pill' a part of your identity. TRP IS A TOOLBOX.

  • Just because someone follows TRP, doesn't mean they're a worthy source of information of advice. THIS IS WHY EC'S ARE A THING.

  • Stop stroking your ego.

  • When you get the message, hang up the phone. - credit to Heathcliff

  • Make your own rules, and live by them.

  • Stop mentally masturbating.

  • Be that 20%.

  • You HAVE to let go.