Becoming a man is no easy task if you've been safeguarded by how real the world can get. Watching Fight Club or the Matrix you realize that the idea of a reality in which you ultimately control what happens is not new, but it is one you may desire so badly that you would even think about how Tyler Durden or Neo would behave in the situations you get yourself in. The truth is, without experience and follow through you'll only be able to imagine what it's like to be what appears to be 'in control'. This is the ability to wake up and decide what you are going to do each day and follow through with it in with unwavering conviction. The reason I bring this up is because from my own personal experience I now have numerous examples of this behavior and would like to share one of the more recent memories I have.

Setting is in Las Vegas. My friend and I meet two women who we befriend and make plans to meet up with them later and hit up the Ferris Wheel named the High Roller. The two ladies are sisters. My other friend joins us so it is the three of us and two of them (just pointing out characters here). One of the sisters is very VERY stubborn and will not even budge on her stance to not go on the ride due to her fear of heights in tight confined spaces. I made the decision to say no worries let's find something else to do then. We ended up not too far from the ride near a fountain where I tried a bit more to open this stubborn person up. She still was not very enthused about her situation especially after I jokingly splashed water on her - she was livid it seemed. So I realized that even though her sister was totally open to adventure it wasn't worth trying much harder so I looked at my friends who agreed, it was time to leave. We went on the ride!

While on the ride I received a text from the more enthused sister explaining how they were both upset at what had just happened and wanted to still meet up after. So I told them OK we could and met them after. [By the way I was polite to them. I didn't show signs of anger or anything because truly I wasn't. I figure if you are going to be a stuck up cunt then there isn't anything I can do to change that.]

We met them after (slightly more intoxicated) and they hung out with us the rest of the night and the stubborn sister was a bit more open, still being a bit cunty.

What was truly interesting is how they were behaving the following day when we met them. The stuck up sister was no longer stuck up at all but the other sister was a bit quieter. Not sure why on this. Nonetheless the groundwork was done. Leaving someone alone (not just women) can give them time to think about how they are acting.

The points I'd like to make here are: 1) Stick to what you had in mind. Don't show a lack of faith in your initial plans while still being flexible. 2) I would've totally let this women bend me over and fuk me if I hadn't ever begun opening my eyes to material like The Red Pill or The Black Phillip Show (Patrice O'Neal). I recall a time where the moment I didn't get a response from a text I would either be pissed or start sending multiple texts (huge rookie mistake). If this was a younger me in this situation I know that I would've sat there trying to find out why this lady was being so stubborn, wasting my time and my buddies' time. 3) People will come around if you just show them that you are genuine and do not show signs of having ulterior motives. Standing firm with what you have in mind sends the message that what you are doing is important to you (chicks dig that in a man).

I'm not saying what I did was amazing or great nor am I saying it was 'the answer'. However, I am saying that I am now in a place where I can look back on decisions I made back when I was uneducated and I realize how I wasn't being a more evolved man. What it took to get me there was experience and some other people's advice to finally help me be free.

Tl;dr - Old me was a pussy but I've grown to learn how to be free and in control of what I do with my life and the time I have in it. Don't let people who are wanting to waste your time waste it. Move along and if they are actually wanting to join in your fun, they will.