Tl; dr: My wife owns up to multiple TRP truths without apology.

Body: This morning my wife and I were discussing her 26 year old friend. The friend has a tight body and physically is an HB8. Both she and my wife are middle school teachers. My wife is post wall and knows it and accepts it. She treats the friend as a protege given the differences in age and professional experience.

I asked when the friend would settle down with a guy and my wife commented that her friend didn't run in the right circles to meet "quality" men. Teachers tend to hang out with other teachers and male middle school teachers (for the most part) are not viable as long term mates. They don't make much money, they are not alphas, and they don't give women the tingles.

Note: if you are a male teacher (not a professor) in the USA: wake up and accept it. HB8s and 9s don't want to drag you home and ball your brains out or take you home to meet their parents.

RP truth #1: What you do for a living matters. You can overcome it but it is more work than necessary.

We kept talking about how we met and her accepting my initial date invitation. I screwed off in college and had a job I that knew wasn't a long term career choice. I worked in retail sales and almost all of my peers were in our early 20s, male, and good looking: Ex college athletes, degreed, and we had to wear suits to work. I met my future wife on her second visit to our office. On our first date she joked that her roommates wanted to come along with her to check out "all the eye candy in the office."

RP truth #2: Preselection happens. Bonus: you don't have to be a specific target of another woman for a potential partner to notice you. If you are identified as a member of the high SMV group you can reap the benefits of being high SMV without proving it.

I then challenged her on why she accepted my date and looked at me as long term mate potential given that my job was not high status, did not pay well, and had high turnover. She said that it was because I let her know up front about my professional aspirations, long term life goals, and active interests. I was taking grad school classes at night, actively networking at night to improve my options, and kept busy in my off hours doing things that separated me from the herd. She saw the long term value (Beta bucks) and the short term social opportunities.

RP truth #3: Hypergamy is always in play. She admits I was the bigger better deal when compared to her prior boyfriend. I built on the preselection by showing I had long term goals and that her best long term option was with me. FWIW, she was in her early 20s when we met.

Summary: Women knowingly constantly judge and evaluate you, not just for tonight but for the long term.

Lessons learned: Reinforcement of TRP truths. Women are aware of what they are doing.