Introduction

There was a recent post about this topic but it was heavily downvoted because many of us disagreed with the method that was proposed.

A popular advice to men in this situation was to "NEXT" - although this approach does get us non-negative results - it's admitting defeat to the shit test without admitting defeat to the shit test, it's basically choosing to not play - and thus "win" by not getting defeated.

I also noticed this shit test was a very common one LTR's love to drop - so I figured I'd make a post to summarize my defence and explain why it works.

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The key to generally properly equip yourself with defense against shit tests AND form your own defenses is to become fluent in WOMYN. WOMYN is the language used by women to shit test men. Like all languages the key to becoming fluent in womyn is by practicing womyn. It's the kind of language you wouldn't know as used extensively unless you start practicing it and start detecting people talk in womyn every. single. day.

To form defense against "I'm meeting my ex for a drink" we've to understand what it means in womyn. In womyn, "I'm meeting my ex for a drink" is "See man, I know I dumped my ex because I thought you had higher SMV than him but I'm starting to doubt my decision - I'm starting to think you're not all that great as I thought, so I'm going to give you one last chance to prove your SMV is higher than my ex or I'm going to go and let that great guy fuck my brains out".

This is what I love about womyn, it captures a whole paragraph into a simple seemingly innocent sentence.

Obviously she is losing respect for you and your relationship ,which is bad, but she seems to have enough respect for you to give you one last chance, which is good, you still have a chance to prolong your LTR.

There are two things you have to understand at this point:

  • Your perceived SMV is LOW from her perspective(or your actual SMV has gone down, which is bad - start lifting).
  • She is starting to have tingles for her ex.

One of the most amazing things I've discovered about womyn is that while women talk in womyn and think in womyn - they also think men talk in womyn.

Meaning, if you get pissed off - in womyn talk it means "OMG WTF he's gonna fuck your brains out and you're gonna love every minute of it! GOD you're going to realize I'm a complete loser and how I have no chance at competing with your wonderful Chad ex" - obviously this gives her more reason and tingles to fuck her ex.

Another proposed alternative was to ignore her shit test or downplay it by being generally disinterested. This will blow up in your face. She's practically begging you to explain to her why she might be wrong about her asserting her ex's SMV as higher than yours. If you don't do anything out of fear of fucking it up - you still lose. She wants you to set her straight.

1. Work on displaying your SMV more to your ex, a popular (and probably overused) method is by using dread but my favorite is working on the masculine-feminine dynamic of the relationship, which in my experience is usually where the problem's root cause lies - give her more reason to enter, feel protected and comfortable in your frame.

2. Desexualize her ex. Many would argue that this is breaking frame and showing that you actually care - it's your LTR, you obviously care atleast a tiny bit. It's adamant you desexualize her ex in womyn only. What you want to convey in straight talk is , "Haha, you're going to go hang out with that faggot? He'd suck me off for 2 dollars. You're going to have the most shitty day of your life."

The best way to desexualize and bring her ex's SMV down with respect to yours is by degrading the guy in the most subtle way you can - in womyn. Something like, "Oh yeah! Your ex! The one you always said would only wear pink panties laugh together, sure babe go have fun". The key is to find a flaw of the guy(eg: short) and exploit it - if you can't find one you should make one up.

You can say this with 100% confidence because you've already planted seeds in her mind that her ex is a loser she should not sleep with. You're essentially telling her that if she did choose to sleep with her ex your response won't be, "What? How could you do this?! I'm leaving!" which in womyn means "How could you betray me like that, I thought we were in a mutual agreement that you'd fuck a low SMV guy like me for quite some time. How could you go fuck someone who's SMV is not only higher but something I can only dream to achieve? You know what, I'm leaving, I can find someone that'll actually settle for my low SMV.", she should know that if she came home and told you she slept with her ex your response would be, "HAHAHA that fag? You slept with pinksy?! I'm going to tell all our friends you fucked pinksy, I'm leaving you. walk away laughing".

This does the following things:

  • Desexualize her ex.
  • She'll have no more tingles for her ex.
  • Your perceived SMV goes up temporarily, this is why I adviced to dedicate time to 1..
  • Create fear in her mind that if she chose to leave you the repercussions will have a strong impact on her social life.
  • You still have a chance with your LTR.
  • Even if her ex made a move on her she'll feel disgusted.

Cheers. Hope I helped.