Summary in LTR with an HB 9, egalitarian-feminist, who works full time (8am-6:30pm), lifts, dances, and despite dating frequently had only 1 previous sexual partner (e.g. hasn't ridden the CC). In the bedroom she enjoys dominating me. She is also not from North America. Is this a Unicorn? An Alpha Female?

Body Only recently discovered TRP and am in the process of swallowing the pill. I think I managed to skip out on the anger phase because I've been showered with alpha seeking women due to physicality and wit (tall and smart), despite my beta entrenched habits (am now working on holding frame, lifting, and not playing the role of BB).

The girl I am in an LTR with was overweight before I met her and easily put herself from a HB4 up to a 9 with dance and the gym (didn't lose weight in the boobs or ass: cha-ching). She is a big proponent of equality but rather than demand things of men she demands of herself; she works hard, exercises, reads countless books to learn and improve herself, takes courses on the weekends etc. She speaks her mind and doesn't afraid of anything.

She is in her mid 20's and probably feeling the impending impact of the wall. Despite dating much before me she doesn't sleep around. The proof is in the pudding that she made me wait longer to fuck her than any other girl I've been with and despite dating only entered LTRs with two guys (one of whom her friend thinks was gay, what with the no sex).

She's assertive, but very respectful of my wishes. She no longer lets me pay gives me the opportunity to pay for her on dates after communicating to her that I do not wish to feel used by the relationship (much of what I read here influencing this decision). She was completely understanding and felt more attracted to me for opening up to her (or going my alpha). She is completely financially independent and not keen to play the role of parasite. When we first started dating I was unemployed and it did not stop her from wanting to and eventually having sex with me either.

In the bedroom I've got a thing about being dominated. I like it a lot. Big appeal to my ego to have a woman yearn for my cock so much that she'll attempt to hold me down and fuck me. Before disclosing this fact with her, I noticed that my attempts to be dominant (which usually drive women nuts because I know exactly what good domination feels like) had very little effect on her. When she got on top and went for a ride she would come in moments. This seemed to suit my needs and hers. When I asked her about it she said that when I was on top I did not seem to be enjoying myself as much as when I was on the bottom and she can get the right angle she likes. I'm unsure if she just likes being on top (some women do) or if her arousal at being dominant is caused by a submission to my desires.

Physically I am bigger, stronger, and younger looking despite being three years older. I have expressed my desire to lift and have been told it would not look good on me. At first I thought she might be trying to stifle me from being more desirable to other women, or is she just into this sort of metro look, but perhaps she wishes to indulge the dominant angle and it's easier to do when I'm not jacked. She's visibly unhappy when I display my endemically superior strength and lift her off me during sex. She is not the jealous type and actually enjoys it when women hit on me.

I know that I make her happy, and she is everything I would want in an LTR. Unlike a lot of the plate-spinning that TRP endorses, settling down and making a family is part of my definition of success. I've been lucky enough to be born with the natural proclivities that enabled some brief stints of plate-spinning in my younger years but I'm ready to find a good mother for my children. She seems like a great candidate but she breaks away from much of the AWALT mentality that TRP has thrown around. Ironically she doesn't believe in marriage. We've talked about it and she's said she would get married if I wanted to but that personally she believes it's an outdated convention.

*EDIT: I am lifting despite her thoughts that I won't look better for it.

Lessons Learned: None yet. Despite holding frame being an excellent source of respect inside and outside the relationship, she is drawn closer to me when I have opened up and been vulnerable.

This relationship is very unique in a lot of respects and I was hoping that reaching out to TRP for insight would provide good food for thought.