"Hi TRP, I've been going to the gym for a few months and have gotten pretty good at cold approaching, but girls keep ghosting me. I can't seem to get girls to hang around, what am I doing wrong?"

In the past few months I've noticed that TRP has devolved into a community that spends time philosophizing about a woman's "true nature" or becoming a "better man" (whatever the fuck that means), instead of focusing on the mission: discussion of sexual strategy. That said, I implore all of you to please (please) at least try to contribute, whether through field reports or strategies that you employ when picking up women, instead of the same generic fitness posts or essays about why you think women are shitty.

I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't attempt to add value to the community based on my own experiences, so here goes.

A couple of years ago, when I first found this community, I met a girl online. Yes, you can't fuck a girl through your screen, the LDR thing doesn't work - I know. But this was my first real opportunity to try out the things I read here, I had been hesitant to test anything out with girls I knew from my social circles, in fear of being branded as "that weirdo".

(Side note - this isn't anything to be concerned about provided you aren't totally socially inept. Just a few weeks ago I got sloppy and had too much to drink at a party, apparently I started getting a little handsy with my friend's roommate - she played it off like a pro, laughs were had, and nothing is awkward between us. Shit happens, live and learn.)

Anyway, when skyping this online chick I immediately steered the conversation in a sexual direction - we played truth or dare so we could learn about each other while our clothes were coming off, and then I ignored her the next day. Basic shit.

She went nuts for me. I'm talking nudes, long texts about how much she loved me, she wants me inside her, the whole deal. Mind you, I was still an out-of-shape, beta nerd, so it's not even like I was running some alpha Chad game on her. It was certainly the first time I had experienced that level of attention from an attractive girl.

For a long time, even after I became more sexually successful, I wondered what the hell happened there. I was a skinny Jewish guy, studying a technical degree. I expected some success using ideas I read in TRP, but nothing like that.

And then, just the other day, it hit me - she was addicted to me because she knew we couldn't be together. I had mentioned in the conversation that I was Jewish, so we were incompatible. And then she must have thought my ignoring her was an extension of that. Yet I still continued to talk to her, she figured, because I was so "overcome with feelings towards her".

I'm sure many of you think I'm going to start talking about the Pigeon in a Box experiment, but I'm not. That's a great topic, and the subject of a larger post, so someone should definitely do a write-up about it. (There's your call to action, get on it!)

No, what happened here was much simpler - girls love drama. They love the range of emotions. That's it. The "contradiction" about how women want a strong and confident yet soft and sensitive guy isn't a contradiction at all. To a woman, the dream is finding some guy who's a huge asshole to every girl but her. There's some special thing about her, she reasons, that domesticates him. There's a spark, there's chemistry between them. There's some objective reason why things shouldn't work out between you - in my story, it was religion - but because of this "spark", it'll just work. No one actually believes in fairy tales, but we all want to and embrace them when we can.

Here are some lines you can use:

-I don't usually open up to girls, but (include something that seems sensitive but doesn't make you sound like a pansy)

-Last time I spoke about my feelings with a girl she dumped me, but I just have to tell you

-We can't be together because

And then ignore her for a day, let her arrive at her own conclusions.

This is why cold approach lines like "Hey, I don't usually do this, but I thought you were really cute and had to say hi" can work. Of course it's bullshit, you know it and she knows it. But a line like this appeals to her desire for a fairy tale ending - she wants to believe, give her what she wants. A line like this gets her hamster to work for you.

Help her experience a whole range of emotions and she will develop an addiction to you, always coming back for more.