Looking for some feedback

RedSunBlue · 2013-05-28T01:14:22+00:00

From the tone of your posts, it sounds like you desperately want everyone to know that you're a Red Pill Man^TM and you will no longer be taking any shit from anyone. The thing is, no one need to know this but you, so don't go around trying to show everyone that it's true.

Point is, women are effectively starting to be ruder, and some men because ok I might be a bit of an arse, but Im not looking for a fight, but im not taking anyones shit. For the first time ever I told a bunch of teens in the cinema last week to shut up as they were talking throughout the film which ofcourse meant they wanted to try and give me the evil looks etc after.

They're being rude to you because you're being "an arse". This is not rocket science. Posts like this lead me to believe all this talk about "asshole game" and "unleashing your inner prick" may be giving new comers, OP included, the wrong idea.

By all means, stop taking shit from others and begin living the life you want. However, remember that being "red pill" just means being a realist, and as a realist, you should understand that if you go around being an ass, you're going to be met with less than favorable reactions. You can rebuke shit and shit tests without immediately turning up the asshole dial to 10. You can call girls out on their shit and be disarmingly charming at the same time.

As far as game goes, the guys I meet who have so much pussy thrown at them that they can't remember chicks unless they send naked pictures rarely engage in anything you could even consider "asshole behavior". They are very cordial and rarely engage in any kind of confrontational behavior -- be it with men or women -- because they know it just isn't worth the stress. Everyone gets a handshake and a smile. If a dude starts busting on them, that dude becomes invisible. If a chick starts giving them attitude, she gets nexted. They have nothing to prove to anyone except themselves.

As usual, Rollo Tomassi has already addressed the topic with regards to game.

Women don’t like overt dominance, just as they don’t like overt objectification or adoration. It’s when it’s covert that they respond most favorably – women love to be objectified, dominated and adored, but only by men who know better than to remind her of it. I’ve always advocated the positive effect of maintaining an ambient threat of competition anxiety with women, but this form of dominance cannot be an overt display. Dominance must be playing in the background, only occasionally being amplified as situations warrant. Women need to know it’s there, but her imaginations of that masculine dominance are more useful to a man than a constant, present, overt reminder of it.

You are being overt. Be covert.

OrangeJuliusPage · 2013-05-27T21:22:59+00:00

Having worked as a server before, if your waitress was attractive, she is probably used to being hit on by married & single guys as well as having dudes who are cubicle monkeys at white collar gigs have condescending attitudes all the time.

As such, you were presumably unintentionally a dick to her when she handed your credit card back to you, and I don't blame her for snapping at you. As to her previous attitude, many servers do hate their jobs because they have to deal with rude or condescending customers. Before you tell me that she has other lines of work or education as options, I get it, and Mr. Pink already made the argument better than you will.

Where I will fault her was that I genuinely just wish for efficient service from my servers, and when I chit chat with them, I really don't care that they do not like their jobs, nor do I care about their kids, if they start talking to me about being a single mom. Plus, her income is largely a function of putting up with that BS gracefully, though perhaps she felt the extra couple of bucks wasn't worth taking more of your guff. Again, her loss.

Point being, I can't make judgments as to your personality based on these anecdotes, but make sure you are putting more emphasis into the aloof part of aloof asshole, because the common denominator of all these rude women you meet is, well, you, so you may not be as charming as you think.

To answer your question, I do encounter some rudeness, but rarely from males, and if from women, I simply reframe or peace out, depending on how much I care.

socal83 · 2013-05-27T19:50:42+00:00

no. people didn't change just because you started reading TRP, you just notice it more.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-05-27T21:16:31+00:00

People generally, will respect you more, when you deserve that respect.

This is not true of people with political agendas or other bullshit where they want to spin things around. But it is true in general in society.

musicvita25 · 2013-05-28T07:27:35+00:00

Thanks everyone I am trying my hardest to be the best I can be. So your comments are extremely helpful

dmahan · 2013-05-27T19:42:45+00:00

I just don't enable people with my presence who act like this anymore.

chikinpickle · 2013-05-28T00:17:31+00:00

I dont get a lot of shit really. But I also know how to spot shitty people and avoid them.

I get called an asshole sometimes. I have a very sarcastic and snarky sense of humor and I am very honest with people without thinking about their feelings. Not everybody gets that. But its fine, people with similar values to mine I make good friends with and respect me highly.

You gotta know that women arent maliciously shitting on you. They just feel like saying something and blurt it out. Laugh at it, they're testing you to elicit an emotional response from you. They want to see if you're in control.

Getting angry, while better than supplicating, will fail that shit test with most women because it demonstrates that you are easily rattled. Youre not in control of your emotions how could you possibly deal with her emotional fits. It also makes them afraid of you, which is the opposite of what you want. They should feel safe with you and slightly anxious about losing that security. That little 20 year old girl got your goat. Jokes on you.

Title	Looking for some feedback
Author	musicvita25
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	May 27, 2013 7:18 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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