Through my red pill journey I have been told to man up a lot. And although that is usually the right answer, it's vague and I wanted to dig deep on what that means. A lot of this is talked about but for my own purposes and the benefit of the newer guys I will write this.

So you're taking your step to manhood from beta to alpha finally ready to take control of your life. You post on askTRP and your told to man up. What does that mean?

Own your shit

First and foremost, Take responsibility for all of your actions, words, beliefs and mistakes. Stop blaming others for your shitty life, shitty relationship, lack of pussy, the hand you were dealt. Take ownership for everything. And listen to what the ECs tell you. This isn't a time for you to fight back and DEER. If the relationship fails. It's your fault. If you have a shitty job. It's your fault. If you lack frame. Your laundry isn't done. It's your fault. Your fault. It's all your fault.

So start taking responsibly for everything and do the necessary steps to get to where you want to go.

Own your Frame

Figure out what you want out of life/relationships/women/career and adjust your frame to fit those goals. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

This is one of the most important parts of "manning up" if you believe in something stand up for it. Dont let the trolls or anyone sway your view on how things are or should be. Don't just have frame, reframe! Reframe everything the way you see it, the way you want the world to see it. Don't budge, And watch how differently people treat you.

You can literally convince someone the sky is green if your frame is strong enough. So if you have a strong opinion on something stop being a pussy and backing down the first time someone questions it. Which brings me to my next point

Stop being so easily persuaded

Being a man means making decision and sticking to your guns. If you listen to what everyone says. You're going to be all fucked up because everyone's frame is different and you will have 100 different opinions and answers. If someone is giving you advice or you're learning, question everything and make your own sense of it. Don't believe It just because "he" said it. It has to feel right in your gut. Which also brings me to my next point.

Stop giving a fuck what people thing about you

Not everyone is going to like you and that's a fact. YouTube "babies laughing" click through the videos and look at how many dislikes those videos have. INNOCENT BABIES LAUGHING and having a great time in their new world enjoying life! Thousands of dislikes, the world is harsh and most people hate themselves. That or they just follow what everyone else is doing.

Stand out in our own way. And stop fucking caring so much. I have a friend who messages me and ask me if he should say this. If he should post this. Then he'll post a video or something of him being stupid and having fun and ask if it's gay. I'll say who gives a fuck and he'll delete it.

Fuck that do what you want to do. I encourage you to do stuff others might view as different, "gay", and weird. It will allow you to grow thicker skin and also make you realize. No one honestly gives a fuck either way. It also helps you become OI

Learn to deal with your emotions

They are fleeting, observe what you're feeling, ask why. And sit on it before you make a decision. Most of the time you will look at the same thing 24 hours later and think "why was I being such a pussy"

Practice this. Meditate. Breath. Keep it moving.

Act and never react.

You're overthinking

Stop thinking so much and act. Men take action. Women hamster. You're human and you're going to make mistakes. That's how you become wise and experienced. There's no other way around it. So when you get that feeling you want to do something you have 5 seconds to do it. Otherwise you won't.

ACTION

Men take action. Manning up means taking action. Going after what you want and disciplining yourself to do it. Fuck your motivation and good feelings. Discipline yourself to do things when you REALLY don't want to.

This give you momentum and the more you continue it the more dangerous you become. I used to come home sit on the couch. Read red pill think "yea I got this" and then turn on the tv. Dishes needed to be done. Laundry. Gym. Tons of shit and I'd procrastinate and stress the fuck out when HB9 text me she's in town and wants to come over and I'm rushing to clean the Fuck up.

Get everything you need done do it first and relax later. Treat your place like your castle, like HB10 is coming over everyday. But do it for you. Because it trains you to take action and get shit done.

Manning up means getting shit done.