Summary: The best way to maintain an healthy relationship is on your shoulders and it is by simply striving to be the best man you can be.

It's a long read but I honestly think it's worth the time, especially for the people whom their hearts blackened and rot away after seeing life with the Red Pill lenses.

Intro: Hey TRP, first post here, been lurking around for about 4 months. (Before you scream heresy! youngling! apprentice!, read the first paragraph) For starters, a bit of an intro about myself:

I consider myself as someone that strives to find the ultimate LTR, since day 1. I was a big-time elementary school lover since my early days, thanks to the indoctrination of BP in our western school systems. From there, i was plunged into betaness, until last November (18th, to be exact, I took care of noting the date) When I first tumbled across TRP, it was a revelation: Holy Fucking Shit, there are people aware of those realities too!, I thought to myself. Then I had the phantasmagorical fun of reading the Glossary, which is still one of the biggest mindblown I've ever had. All those concepts were things I saw happening around me all the time, alas they were nothing but blurred concepts, embryos of pieces forming a reality too big for me to see. It was only a matter of time until I fully grasped the concept behind the Red Pill Philosophy since I'm a pretty fast learner and from the fact that all those concept weren't complete gibberish to me. It was easy to link and backup with proofs those aspects of TRP to actual social examples around me. But I digress.

I was the summum of the Beta male, I could have received the title of Great Architect of Pedestals. I’m still internalizing a lot of TRP, but in those 4 months I tested on multiples HB to understand how exactly TRP is interracting with LTRs. (for the record, those were relationships that didn't make it but for other reasons, sometimes me still being a BB.) You might not take my advice, and it's totally understandable. But still, there is something I’d like to point out to all those deluded guys out there who just aren’t believing in LTR anymore. Going MGTOW (for the good reasons) or simply spinning plates till you die are some honorable paths, I have no doubt about it, but hear me out.

Body:

The Key to an healthy LTR isn’t the dread game, lifting or having the DT. It is, to the core, linked to you and your capacity to always improve.

Dread, Lifting, Dark Triad, Frame, Game all those concepts are of a capital importance (some even vital) to secure plates and chicks or straight up to be alpha. But those tools will stop working when she sees it was a fugazi, a scene.

Don't misunderstand me, tingles are tingles, but you won't be able to share common wealth / consider having kids with a woman who the only thing you share with is the mutual desire to fuck his/her brains out.

You meet a chick, you do what you need to do, (being AMoG, funny but with that slight IDGAF attitude, the dreadz gamez, all that jazz). You landed the girl, had a bang for your almost nonexistent buck invested.

Cool.

But what if, even with AWALT tattooed on your forearm, there is just something cool with this girl. She hasn't anything absolutely better than the others, but still, you find the arrangements of her strength / flaws / characteristics appealing and constructive to you. (We are all just individuals defined by an amalgam of traits, you're not special nor unique, you're only... bio-randomized from your genes.) You tell to yourself:

She's... fine.

Well smartass, what do you do?

You get in a LTR, dumbwit! It isn't weak of you to enter a relationship with someone you genuinely think she will bring an added value to your life. The only thing you should ask yourself is:

  • Is it Oneitis? "I don't think so, I still can bang the entire female population of this city and it won't do shit nor create dem feels of remorse."
  • Is my life going to be easier with her involved? (The question version of "Don't stick your dick in crazy.") "Well yeah she's cool to hangout with, she isn't fucking insane and she does those BJ I only dreamed of."
  • Is she pretty? "Of course she is you dense idiot, I wouldn't have stuck my dick in it if she wasn't."

That's about what you should ask yourself from the absolute start, if you ever find yourself with those questions wandering through your confused moral RP compass.

After this point, it's a different game. If you could daygame / create a facade that you could work with in bars and public places, that ain't gonna cut it. You need to genuinely, sincerely, hastily trying to become better, at everything you do (Which is by itself one of the goal any man should have). If you are true to your objective, true to your goals and most importantly true to your success, she'll never leave.

As an quick example: My dad is a carpenter in his 40's with a considerable belly, he's losing his hair, he can't speak about sex or to have any sexual oriented talks for the matter (always look uneasy when the topic is brought), he's overall not ugly but not especially attractive. My mom is a fine woman (as my friends say, I won't comment the physical attractiveness of my own mother, sorry folks.) She works with doctors and medical specialists every single day in the operation department, with men who makes multiple times the salary of my Dad, in position of power. The PowerPack of the soon-to-be cuck right? Surprisingly, she is still unbelievably in love with him. Why? He does not stop improving. 7 days a week, he works, pushes his limits, trying to be the absolute best he can be.

Hell, he's not Jordan Belfort, he's not Tiger Woods, he's only a Dad, driving his own business, being a head in the Administration Counsil of the local ski station, being in charge of multiple teams of volunteers for the Ski Club, etc. He's the best public speaker I've seen, automatically reaching people's trust.

Not Glorious. He's just leading.

I'm not glorifiyng my Dad, I honestly think he has major flaws. But what I learned after my eyes opened to TRP: He's an alpha. He's not DT, he's strong but not cut nor lean, not well groomed, not particularly well dressed; Still, he's with my mom since High School. And you should how those 40-50 year old women look at him.

Alpha by actions, by objectives, not only by facade. And you won't be a cuck.

Lesson Learned:

  • Lead, Drive, Strive for a better You.
  • Do not get married. He took a shot, it worked, but if tomorrow she's making my pledge look like shit by leaving him, he loses half of what he built with his own actual sweat. *LTR aren't hopeless. Never give your heart away, always be able to jump off the boat and you'll be absolutely fine.