Need advice!

MattyAnon · 2016-12-05T11:35:54+00:00

"sex is okay, but it should be about love"

The usual blue pill programming then. Don't fall for it of course. But don't fight her on it. Nod, smile, escalate.

Next night she calls up and accuses me.

You are dealing with a nut job.

Why is she doing this

Nutter. No good reason.

how should I protect myself

You're going to have to cut her totally out of your life. She'll try and blackmail you, but eventually she'll move on.

Her MO is to try to make guys sexually escalate, then make them feel guilty or responsible, then emotionally blackmail them for attention.

Your logic isn't relevant, but you dealt with it well by shutting her down.

You need to shut her completely out of your life. If she senses weakness she'll continue to harass you. Happily however I think she'll move on to her next victim rather than continue with you.

Police involvement seems unlikely, but protect yourself by keeping all texts, and write yourself up an account of the night in as much detail as you can remember. If you do talk to the police, SAY NOTHING TO THEM (apology = guilt btw), talk only to a lawyer.

In terms of your friends, there's not much you can do. Remain stoic, and if they say anything just stick to "yeah, she's crazy". Don't go into details of the night (they won't believe you), don't say what she did to cause it (it sounds bad). Just stick to "she's crazy" because people can believe that about women without too much trouble.

Good luck.

throwawayurbuns · 2016-12-05T10:47:19+00:00

Slut shaming is very strong with girls who come from a religious or strict moral background.

If she ain't putting out, move on.

InformalSavage · Mon Dec 5 11:26:36 2016 UTC

She is doing this to maintain the plausible deniability that anything happened between you two. If she really is a virgin like she claims, she will stop at nothing to maintain her innocent image.

Luckily for you she didn't sleep with you so you haven't the need to protect yourself from anything. If it comes up again just ignore it and act aloof or nonchalantly change the subject, but do not agree and amplify as your words can very easily be taken the wrong way.

Frankly unless this girl is an HB8 or higher i wouldn't even consider plating her, especially because you have the same friends. Hard next, and don't shit where you eat.

As far as your current girlfriend goes just tell her you were out with a friend. Don't explain yourself to her. If she asks for details just shrug it off with a smile. Plausible deniability works both ways.

All in all your situation could have been worse if you fucked her (think rape accusation), but it could have also been easily avoided with proper RP etiquette. I would suggest going back to the sidebar and brushing up on shit tests, as you failed every single one that was thrown at you. Also work on your abundance mentality, and remember; don't stick your dick in crazy.

blue_dover · 2016-12-05T19:23:48+00:00

No fuck u - go post in asktrp

moontripper1246 · 2016-12-06T05:48:08+00:00

Loll? Dude your freaking out for no reason. Well...not no reason but you might be overreacting here. This is standard buyers remorse. Simply put, every girl has a very strong impulse within their psyche to avoid being "the slut". A girl with buyer's remorse feels like a slut after doing something sexual with a dude that she regrets. Every girl has a different threshold for becoming a slut in their own mind. This perception is influenced by culture and personal experience, etc. etc. Her being a religious girl and a virgin to boot is a pretty big red flag that if you just want to fool around that your going to have to skirt around some pretty aggressive ASD (anti-slut defense). Its actually just easier to go after someone else. Your experience reflects that. If you did what you did with an americanized girl who grew up with no religion and has had sex at least a few times before, this would not have been such a "bad dirty amoral" thing in her mind. And she gave you clues too. "Then she goes on and on about how "sex is okay, but it should be about love"" Okay. This is her ASD (anti-slut defense) telling you what you need to do for her to make sex with her okay or "right" or a situation of "oh it just happened". Basically to absolve her of responsibility in taking part in this sexual activity (to not be a slut) she needed you to make this experience about "love". She wanted you to make her feel like she loved you, or that you loved her. One or both really. And that's the fucked up situation with religious girls and virgins. They kind of want that, and if you fuck them they get that impression and its a shit show afterwards. So, Its actually a great thing that you didn't fuck her, because then things would have been way worse for you. Not saying that no one can ever fuck a religious girl or a virgin and avoid that situation, just saying that you seem like your new and don't really know how to handle these kind of things so its best to avoid more difficult situations than your prepared for. Anyways...But instead of understanding what she was saying and backing of or going into a very long discussion about why love is transient and everybody should go after what they want in the moment cause life is short yaddayadda, you just cuddle up with her and ignore it. Dumbass. That's basically guaranteeing she'll regret this shit the next morning. Anyways, what's all this bout? " The last couple of times we have met.....So she texts me saying she wants to meet. I tell her about my girlfriend." This fucking reads like you have no idea what you wanted with this chick. You tell her that you have a girlfriend and then you proceed to do very boyfriend-y actions for her like buying her food, taking her out, watching movies and cuddling with her. Basically giving her signals that "yeah i have this girlfriend...but maybe I'll leave her to be with you cause your so special!!!<3<3" loll. That's partly why she's pissed here. You presented yourself as this boyfriend type guy that she thought she'd land, and so she was cozening up with you expecting by the end of the night (on some level, and its stupid, I know) some kind of super romantic shit to happen. Now, its important to understand why she was expecting this in the first place. One big reason is that she is religious, and she's been raised to expect a grand declaration of love from a man she's about to fuck by society AND her religious upbringing. Another HUGE reason is that you seem to have meticulously presented yourself as that type of guy. The type of guy that would give a declaration of love and stay with her etc. etc. through your actions and (haha) the fact that you have a girlfriend. These two factors are the big reasons why she had this expectation by the end of the night. If you wanted to change her expectations of you, you would have needed to do some serious legwork, especially considering she's religious. So, it's not exactly insane that she's acting this way, you just don't understand what's going on. Which is unfortunate. Especially with the way you responded on the phone. "she should have been clear if she don't want anything to happen. And it simply would have stopped if you had said sleep on the other bed." Dude, just reading a few red pill articles doesn't suddenly make you great with chicks. You need to go out and experience the hard shit for yourself, and this was some of that shit so congrats for progressing on this journey. Maybe now you won't give yourself props for just "lurking on the red pill for a good couple of months now" (not saying your bragging on this forum, just giving you an idea of what it actually takes to get good at this, and that reading articles online doesn't really do much compared to fucking going out and experiencing this shit).

Now on how to protect yourself...See dude, the time to protect yourself was when you were in bed with her and after when you were on the phone with her. As we all know girls try to absolve themselves of all responsibility when things start to feel icky, sexually speaking. This is what she was doing when she said "sex is okay, but it should b about love" and when she called you on the phone and essentially blamed you for what went down like she wasn't there. So when she called you, you should have reframed the situation into something like "why are you feeling this way? we were just hanging out last night." stayed on the phone with her until you KNEW she wasn't going to destroy your social life. This is also why you should NOT be testing this red pill/pua shit on people you know. You gotta go out to anonymous venues so that when shit like this happens, you don't have the extra emotional baggage of "what id this ruins my social circle????". Honestly, at this point, you've burned all the bridges I would have used to smooth things over. I'll be surprised if you and her are still friends in the next week. This drama might also bleed into your common friends. Hope this helps.

TACTICALBLONDEBIMBO · 2016-12-06T06:38:40+00:00

Time to next that ho OP. No offense, but shes Indian and probably isn't that pretty. Is some mediocre and possibly stank ass pussy worth it? Not at all. I literally only known one dot Indian girl who is somewhat attractive and her nose is fucking inspector gadget toy glasses with the big ass nose huge. The nose on her ridiculous. She does have a very nice set of ass and thighs for an Indian girl, like shes bad bitch hispanic thick from the waste down. Aways wondered what it would be like to fuck her from the back so I dont have to look at her. Anyways shes another one, even back in high school I remember her boyfriend had told some people she wouldn't let him even get close to the pussy. Pretty sure she still has an overvalued sense of worth now. Hope someone tears her ass up one day to the point shes in tears.

If shes not going fuck you, or is going to make a huge deal about it. Tell her to go kick rocks. Especially if shes saying some dumb shit. She's entitled to her opinion about sex being about love, but unless yu have plans on wifing that ho. Im telling you if you ever try and break up with her if you do get to fuck, she might try and either hurt you or hurt herself.

Title	Need advice!
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Date	December 5, 2016 10:01 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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