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Need some help/advice with jealousy.

kentopt
December 5, 2013
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Title Need some help/advice with jealousy.
Author

kentopt
Upvotes 0
Comments 15
Date December 5, 2013 9:51 PM UTC
(12 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1s6wvl/need_some_helpadvice_with_jealousy/
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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link

What you have outlined is totally unacceptable behaviour by her. Sometimes, the response to behaviour like this isn't to agree and amplify, it's to shut it down hard, right there. You can keep your cool all you like, and make witticisms, but the truth is, she absolutely shouldn't be seeing other guys in a 1 on 1 setting.

You have seriously lost control here, and it's going to be tough to get it back, if you even want to. She is having an affair. I don't care if they haven't fucked, that's what it is. Giving him money, his protestations of love. That's not a shit test, it's infidelity. The solution isn't to make her jealous, or increase your SMV, induce dread or any of the other tactics we employ to keep women on the straight and narrow. It has gone far beyond that and you now have 2 choices:

1. Kick her out.
2. Ban her from having any contact with him ever again. Is she refuses or does so anyway without your consent, kick her out.

Personally, I would go with option 1.

Edit. It's all bullshit. Nothing to see here, OP made it all up. http://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1s2bp0/me_28m_financial_issues_with_my_26f_gf_need/

[–]kentopt[S] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you. You're so fucking right. It actually feels, physically, like I lost all control.

I'm even ashamed to admit this here... but I need to let it out, because it's so beta it makes me cringe: She didn't tell me that she met with him 2 times, and that she lended him money. I found out by pushing a 'bluff' on her. I told her that something is wrong when I saw that she was overprotective with the phone. I kept on pressing the issue until she told me that she met with him 2 times and lended him money.

Of course, this is trickle truth.

Anyway, thank you so much for the reply. I'll go with option 2. If she has any respect for me she will cut contact. If she doesn't, than the respect is so far gone that I can't get it back anyway and will have to break it up.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

It's massively beta I'm afraid. What you are portraying as effective responses to shit tests, were actually just you affirming to her that it's ok she carries on like this.

If you have to go with option 2, then don't let her have time to think about it. Own the moment, own the decision, own the finality of it. Tell her there and then, make her agree to it there and then, and if she doesn't, end it there and then and never, ever see her again.

I honestly wish you all the best, but just remember, there are always other women.

Edit. It's all bullshit. Nothing to see here, OP made it all up. http://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1s2bp0/me_28m_financial_issues_with_my_26f_gf_need/[1]

[–]kentopt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I swear to you, this not made up. And neither is the other story. I just mix the years and dates up because im paranoid. Shes a redditor to. Believe me or not, i really apprciatr your advice and it really openes my eyes.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

If all of this and the other post is true, you are the world's most cuckolded beta provider.

[–]still_very_alive 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Normally skinny_bitches comes off as a bit too abrasive for me, but I'm with him here. So, your GF spends all her money on frivolities every month, gives a chunk of her cash to a guy who says he loves her, makes you support her, gets upset when other girls show interest in you and demands that you either pay for the entire vacation or forget it. And she gets upset when you do cancel it. Yeah.

[–]Manuel_S 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Trolling for attention or trolling to keep us busy?

[–][deleted] 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

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[–]HappyJerk 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

zango!

[–]kentopt[S] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Birthday no. You misread the post. It was just a trip, no birthdays involved.. Edit: sorry, i misread your post. I mix up the years because she browses reddit. I wish this wad a troll post if thats where youre aiming at. Umfortumatelly its not.

[–][deleted] 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]kentopt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Im 28. The guy other than his looks and maybe that hes a foreigner has nothing else. I mean, i dont know his game, but financially and future wise he has nothing.

[–]dandeezy 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah if I were you I'd tempt the girl to teach. Go ahead, make my day. It's almost inevitable. Give them the right place (hidden camera at your house when you're away) ?

When she gets caught, realizes her mistake, comes running back to you. You can make her do anything you want. Push her limit, anal? Facial? Whatever fantasy you have. Next morning, be like " umm yeah I can't take you back, I tried. Get out".

But that's just me.

[–]redpillshadow 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Just in case OP isn't lying/ a troll.

Alpha fucks/ Beta bucks.

You have been paying everything for 5 years. She is trying to get that juicy alpha sperm for good looking kids and wants to lock you down with that child. She is 27/28 (whatever) and that is damn close to the wall. You have no frame at all. She is walking all over you (money, respect, threats, shit tests (which you clearly don't pass at all)).

[–]7Vega -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Option 2 but don't tell her. When she finds out act surprised that she's upset. Don't complain about the other dude. Act bored when she talks about him and make fun of her for being a pedophile. Go no-contact and come back with wild stories about naked women at parties. You know the drill.

Above all, stop caring about whether you lose her.

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