I grew up as a very liberal white male. I campaigned for several prominent liberal politicians over the course of 10 years. I lived my life as a good complacent nice guy, and everyone who claimed to praise me for those same qualities and sacrifices took advantage of me. After years of apologizing for who I am, I finally realized that nothing will satiate those who seek to diminish my power so as to increase their own. Let me share the ideological realizations that opened my eyes.

There are only two types of people: Hammers and nails. Masters and slaves. The powerful and the weak.

When someone refers to your 'Privelege' they are talking about your 'power'. White power and male power are common themes here, and many outsiders can't understand how that could be the case. I was that person. How could you not understand how unjust it is, how horrible history has been for people? I challenged myself after some very negative person experiences with feminists and horrible racial diversity hires to look at that paradigm more deeply. What I realized is this: Power is the only thing that is real. Justice is an illusion used to redistribute power.

It is better to have power than to not have power. You cannot have both. Men cannot simultaneously serve the interests of fairness and be their true dominant selves. We can act like being just is in our best interest, but I challenge you to give someone absolute power over you and see if they care about your devotion to fairness. My feelings are reactionary and visceral because I feel them to be true deep in my bones. I can feel the power that good for nothing leeches have over me despite all the good will and sacrifice I put forward in an effort for justice in their name. I now see the real world: those with power dictate the rules of engagement. Never ever diminish your own power, lest you experience what it's like to be powerless.