I'm a virgin. I haven't kissed a girl in 9 years. I've never seen a girl naked in real life. I've been "cold approaching" since the 4th of July. 

 At first I started simple.  I would ask a couple girls for the time.  Maybe I had a conversation or two once in a while.  Everything was nerve wracking.     I keep pushing it.  Still, I haven't made a ton of progress.  The chains of fear are still holding me back.  I'm just going to keep fighting until I make it - either I will succeed or I will die trying.  There's no going back at this point.  I can't go back to doing nothing.  There's an itch, a yearning.  I would go insane if I stopped taking action.  Here's a good quote on the journey:  "So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable." (Christopher Reeve)   So many of us (including myself) are still trapped in the "pit".  It seems hopeless.  We can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.  We are socially awkward, virgins, incels, ugly, short, poor, disadvantaged in one way or another.  We think that our disadvantages are fatal.  That there's no point in trying.     Life isn't fair.  Not everybody is a winner.  Just because you tried your best doesn't mean you're owed shit.  Try anyway.  You have two options, really: get busy living or get busy dying.   Don't waste your precious time whining.  It does nothing but let you slip comfortably into despair, and eventually, death.     The times that really determine your success are the hard times.  Pushing yourself when you're tired and sick.  Pushing yourself when you don't see an end in sight, when there's seemingly little to gain and no results coming anytime soon.       "In a race, you hit several walls.  Every time you hit a wall, it's a big deciding factor in that race, or in life, if you're not running.  You have a big decision to make.  You can either stop at that wall and go parallel left or parallel right.  You are looking for that door.  When you get to that door you have another decision to make.  Should I open it or should I keep it closed.  If you keep it closed you made the decision to quit.  If you open that door you made the decision to carry on, to continue on your journey or mission, whatever you're on.  I always open that door!  Once you open that door, and you go through it, your mind resets and it gives you a few more miles." - David Goggins.  David Goggins is an incredibly amazing and inspiring human being.  I encourage you to look him up and watch this video about him running ultra marathons - humanv2.0: the long run - 150 mile runner.   You have to dig deep to find your short term and long term motivations.  This can't just be about you, or simple hedonism.   No, this has to be beyond you.     I'm doing this for more than me.  This is for my grandfather.  My grandfather at 18 was forced into the Wehrmacht and sent to the Russian front for a few years.  He later was in an allied pow camp, where he had to dig a ditch for himself so he could survive the cold and tend to his injured leg.  If my grandfather can take all that and then go on to become a successful radiologist in the USA and a multimillionaire, then I can persevere through my fear.   I'm his last and only male heir (my uncle has schizophrenia).  I'm the only one who can continue on his legacy, genetic and historic.   This is for my grandmother.   My grandmother at 6 watched her neighborhood and everything she knew get devoured in flames as planes were raining down fire bombs.  If my grandmother could make it through that, then I can continue my journey.

This is for my great grandfather. He was also forced into the Wehrmacht at 39 and was trapped in a pow camp and then in France for years until he saw his home again. If he can make it through that I can keep going. 

 This is for my father.   My father grew up a poor farm boy in rural Wisconsin.  He worked like a dog, and still does, and is now a very successful doctor.  If he can make it so can I.  I won't let his hard work go to waste.  This is for the world.  Dysgenics is rampant today.  Average IQ has gone down 10 points in the last century.   Europeans are going extinct.  If I don't reproduce and raise great children,  I will have failed my great ancestors, who went through so much and did great things.  Kings of Europe, Vikings, Roman Emperors flash before my eyes.  I can't let these greats, my ancestors, and my people down.   Being good looking, smart, and tall means that I must do what I can to uplift the genepool and the citizens of the world.  My ego can't let me die childless.  If I waste the natural gifts I have been given, it will have all been in vain.  There are no excuses.   Find your will, your reason, your passion to complete your goals and get success.  To be truly motivated to continue even through the hopeless, tired hours, you need more than simple hedonism to push you through.  It will be hard, and you might never succeed.  But it is better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all, or half assed it.  Get a mission, or missions, and fight like hell to get what you want.    Take action.  Go read the recent post about taking risks.  It's all we can do.  Because let me tell you - for all that I have - my looks, my height, my smarts, my "privilege" and wealth - all of it means nothing without good old fashioned grit.  If you are not in monk mode, get the fuck off of this sub right now, and stay off.  There is a time for reflection and there is a time for action.  Take consistent action and don't waste your time on mental masturbation and negative energy if you are on your purpose right now.   Let's all strive to get a tiny bit better everyday, or as many days as we possibly can.  We're all gonna make it brah.