To start off, I'm a 17 year old male in a small Midwest town. On a day to day basis I see the same small minded individuals. By the end of 2014, specifically by the end of December, I knew that my life really needed some changes. There's a lot of evidence that supports journaling and such, so I thought I may give it a try. So, on the first day of 2015 I sat down with a notebook and wrote down all of my goals. All of the goals were really simple. I had some athletic, academic, and philanthropy stuff down. The overall goal was to be the best me and to become over all a nicer person.

Anyway though, the second weekend of January, I had a debate tournament. At this tournament there was a relatively attractive blond female. Note: I have extremely bad approach anxiety. I tried walking up to her three times before I finally did. When I did though, I got her number and had a really great conversation. Over the next month this girl and I spent sooo many hours on skype. I had put this girl up on a pedestal. I believed that this girl was \"the one\". We lived about an hour away from each other and both of us normally had stuff to do on the weekends. After four weeks of talking we finally had a day that we could get together and chill. We were hanging out Saturday, I was gonna drive to her town and such. The night before we had barely talked because I had been really busy with athletic things ( I drive an hour to practice, practice is 2 1/2 hours, then I drive an hour home ). Before I go to bed though, I sent a text saying goodnight, cant wait, etc. I wake up Saturday morning to a text from her cancelling. I had developed some real feelings somehow and this really upset me. The girls reasoning was that at the moment she just wasn't ready for a thing with me. She elaborated this to saying that she would really appreciate me waiting for her. So for about two weeks I stayed around until I figured out that she was just using me to make her feel good about herself and for the attention.

About a week after I met the previously mentioned girl I started to become somewhat friends with a girl from me school. This girl was pretty weird but so am I. As the friendship progresses I can see that this girl has a thing for me, but I ignore it because I made the fact that I was into somebody else pretty clear. Well, when the previously mentioned girl canceled I told this girl about it. An hour later this girl asked me out. For FIFTEEN days straight this girl asked me out at least once. At the time I felt really shitty about myself. I believed that I deserved a chance, that people deserved a chance. So after fifteen days I told her we could try things. Well the first week goes fine. We hang out a few times and she's surprisingly physical which was nice. Then I go out of town that weekend, so we talked more. I have my future planned out. Dual Major in Comp Sci and International Business. Move to Austin, TX. Work for some sort of tech comp. for a bit then start a startup. I told her all this and then inquired about hers. Her response was that she'd do whatever but she really wants to get married in her twenties and start a family. This freaked me out. I am not sure how I feel about marriage and am pretty sure I don't want kids. I told her everybody has hopes and dreams, so what actually were hers (I find the marriage and family a bit unbelievable). Her response was two things. 1) She wants to travel the world and tell people about Jesus. 2) She wants to adopt inner city children. This made me laugh pretty hard because I have no interest in either. I told her this. She tried to convince me to go to church with her sometime. I said no. The argument continued but I ended up telling her that she was attaching herself to me and that it was unappealing. I also said that because of that and her beliefs/goals a relationship would not be prosperous. This resulted in major social consequences. I was ass for dating this girl just to dump her two weeks later. I blew it off.

After having this two failed relationships in less that three months into the year I was browsing reddit and found this glorious subreddit. The best thing that I've read on here so far is that you have to find a woman who wants you more than you want her. This previous weekend I was at a debate tournament, again. Standing outside of my first round I was browsing reddit (r/tifu) on my phone. I would show it to my partner occasionally. Sitting on a bench by the room were two girls that kept glancing at me. Both were either and 8 or 9. Neither was a 10 but I have damn high standards. Didn't talk to them. If they wanted me, they could start the conversation. The round goes by. I'm easily the best speaker but I have a terrible partner. It could have went either way.

Going into the third round my partner and I are standing outside of out room. I start talking to the opposing team because why not? Then those two girls are waiting for a room by us. I take advantage of this and change the conversations to two aspects that I shine in. 1) Physical Fitness and 2) Future plans. The girls take note of this. I actually asked them mid conversation if what I was saying made sense and they said it sounded interesting, etc. The third round eventually starts though so the conversation ends, still haven't made a move.

After this round we were in a \"commons\" area just chilling. I was with people from my school. Then I see one of the two girls walk by. As mentioned earlier I have approach anxiety but I get along better when a girl is by herself so I walked up to her. We talked for a solid 10 minutes or so. The conversation dies down to the point where she pulls her phone out. I was in the middle of saying something and I stopped mid sentence. She looks at me and says I don't have to stop, she's just answering a text. I replied, \"Nah, I'm just gonna go\". Didn't look back. Sat down with people from my school and was asked what the fuck just happened because 1) That girl was HOT and 2) she had a dafuq look when I left. Fifteen minutes pass and the other girl walks by as I'm getting up to check results. She starts to walk with me then asks me about my fitness stuff. We get over to the results thing and I'm acting kinda out of it, wave her off, say I'll see her around.

Ten minutes later the first girl walks up to me with a piece of paper with her snapchat and number on it. A few minutes after that the second one walks up to me and tells me that I should text her, hands me her number, and says that her friends a \"bitch\" so I shouldn't talk to her. Started talking to both girls. Both are DTF. I think I've came pretty far from where I was in January. Field report, maybe? Still kinda new.

Tl;dr: Put a girl on a pedestal, Dated an attached jesus freak, honed my game and got two girls' number.