I read this subreddit sometimes, but I am not an expert on all aspects of your theory, as i have only read some of it. However here are some thoughts I would like to share.

  1. You take a beautiful idea like self improvement, but sometimes twist aspects of it into external blame. Self-improvement is about the SELF. You can't change other people very easily but you can change yourself, and one thing you can change about yourself is your ability to recognize good AND terrible people. Yes, people do fucked up things and it sucks when we get hurt. But sometimes we continue to milk blame on external people and situations and use it as an excuse for validation of our own behavior and bad habits.

  2. Seduction and finding a good girlfriend is not just a routine process of steps. Human beings are too complicated to be completely adherent to plans. Learn some self esteem, discipline and how to take care of yourself, do work and activities you love and how to have a conversation, and you don't need a whole lot else aside from calibrating your experience meter. Obsessively referring to advice forums and guides through every step of your relationships causes you to manifest someone else. Trust yourself, its ok to get advice sometimes, but you need to be self validated and to know your own values to make your own decisions. You need to distinguish yourself differently to establish you are not a stereotype but an experience in her life and that she is in yours. Change your first date questions and change your first dates. Don't just 'go to dinner or coffee', its not 'good' just for being stereotypical and comfortable, and every person good and bad can sit that lame routine, we all know the drill. Get off it. Be an experience! If you like cooking, ask her if she wants to come over and cook something with you, then you can already see how you work together and see what she does creatively, if she is spontaneous, how she problem solves and how she communicates. You want to get to know someone? Do ACTIVE dates. If you both make an effort, chat or small talk will come no matter what you do, but to get to know who she IS before you are close enough to know her deep values, you can see how they manifest. Ask her to do creative and adventurous things. Ask her if there is something you could learn together. Play a board game with her and see how she handles victory/defeat. Observe how she describes other people and how she changes in different environments. Don't just ask her what her favorite book is, anyone can just name drop their skimmed college reading list. Ask her something deeper, like what author she would want to be stuck in an elevator with. Find a woman who likes to learn.

  3. Plenty of men and women have childish characteristics. Due to the untamed standards of parenting there are a lot of shitty people who didn't learn to think so they instead learned to whine.

We can't change the fact that unfortunately many parents commit a self-fulfilling prophecy in which they raise their girl to think she is stupid or incapable because they think she's "made" to be that way. We can't change that there are women who act emotionally manipulative, childish, cruel and selfish. What you can do is be patient and seek better women instead of lumping them all as the same. And to improve for the future generations, raise better women. If you have a daughter I hope you raise her to be kind and to love the pursuit of knowledge and growth. I hope you raise her to understand that she can learn anything if she works hard and that she can always improve. The brain has amazing neuroplasticity in early childhood. The majority of our neural connections are made then--read about it, it is amazing how fast children develop association and how easily they mimic. Challenge her intellectually, don't just throw her a doll because she's a girl. Teach her to communicate. Teach her about hard work, motivation and compassion.

Your passive and emotionally cruel women are a result of parents who don't teach their daughters to think logically and critically and don't correct emotionally manipulative behavior. Chances are, they manipulate both men AND women with their tactics...they are just bad and/or dramatic people.

  1. In your self improvement you have noticed not everyone is not as motivated as you, so you may also need to change your company, friends dating style or whatever. If you want to be a great and influential person, seek others like you with your energy for change and it will aid you more. But its damn hard to find and you will see screwballs all over the place, which might make you feel alone at first if you make a big personal change. There are women and men out there that are compatible with you but you have to be willing to actively search.

  2. The world isn't against you. Some people just suck. That doesn't mean they're all bad. Interact with many kinds of people from different social circles. If they suck don't spend time with them. If you date someone and they suck don't obsess over it. Stop dating them and move on. If you realize you suck, change it and move on. And if you notice you have a dating pattern of inherently evil people, there is either a red flag you aren't learning to see in that personality type or a personal behavior you aren't acknowledging in yourself. Read research from conflicting viewpoints, not just ones that validate what you already hope is true. Don't play into someone's game if you don't want to, don't read this subreddit like a bible, and be spontaneous. Be an experience, not a manifestation of a forum of strangers.