After a lot of self-improvement over the last year and a reanalysis of my life, I've found my confidence and don't-give-a-fuck attitude has gotten me places I never thought possible.

Alas, there are some times when my so-called 'beta' side comes out. I might question cold approaching a girl with headphones on, I may avoid negotiating higher prices with clients and I'll second-guess my ability to pull a new PR deadlift. I think these are natural, and they come to us all. Maybe one day I'll be the 24/7 chad, but for those times when I'm stewing on a decision or thinking about wimping out, I'll pull out my secret weapon: thinking about big black cock.

It sounds dumb. It sounds comical. But it does the job.

I work in the porn industry, so maybe the power and imagery I associate with BBC is more than the standard person. Nonetheless, I think we all know that the ebony cock is a symbol of TRP. It's powerful, brutish, larger than life, confident and doesn't give a fuck. My mental BBC is a perfect manifestation of everything I want to be, and when I channel my mental BBC - bring it into focus - I start to embody it.

I become that huge slab of ebony meat. I tell myself that I can succeed, and that I don't need to reconsider. I'm unstoppable, I can conquer the world, I can do what I want, when I want, and no one is going to stop me. I mean, seriously, who the fuck is going to argue with a big black cock?

My mental BBC doesn't always come out, but when it does, it gets the job done. It's a no-nonsense psychological state that swats away failure and backing down. It's a psychological steroid that doesn't consider failure and only strives to get me where I want to be.

I think that everyone needs a mental BBC. Yours might be a quote, or a person, or a piece of imagery. No matter what form it takes, always have something available on-hand when you want to do something but can't quite find the stones to follow through.

So, the next time you're looking at a cute girl you want to talk to but can't pluck up the courage to pull the trigger, just close your eyes, channel that mental BBC and go do it. I promise you'll feel ten times as confident with a big black cock on your side.