So I met this girl, lets call her S, at a political event. She caught my eye straight away. Beautiful face, very sexy body, bubbly, friendly.

We talked a little bit and I got her number. I wasn't sure if she was into me, since her personality is generally friendly and outgoing, so maybe she just talked to me to be nice.

We would text on whatsapp and even call but it still seemed like she saw me as a friend. But then she started talking about sex pretty graphicly, and then I figured she was maybe interested afterall. The sex talk only made me want her more since she kept talking about how her ex didn't fuck her the way she wanted it and all the kinky stuff she is into. She also said she isn't into casual hookups. I thought "perfect! my kind of girl!".

But during this conversation she also talked about another guy she said she had been interested in for a while and said guy hadn't showed interest back which made her upset. I wasn't sure what to say because I clearly am interested in her, and this made it seem like she was either trying to make me jealous or simply didn't see me that way?

I also noticed when I would text her kinky messages she would respond with "Lol :)" or "Wow yeah that sounds nice :)" and not ever respond in a similar fashion.

She asked me what my mbti personality was, which I found odd especially if she isn't into me? I can't figure her out always lol.

I then decided to be a bit more direct and ask her one night if she wanted some company that evening. Her response was "No, just got home and my apartment is too messy". She suggested we could meet at a cafe or somewhere public later that week if I wanted.

She called me a few days after I suggested to come over, I didn't pick up on purpose. Later I told her I was on a date (which was a lie). I wanted to see her response.

Me: I was on a date. How are you? :)

Her: Good! Was in the city center and finally found a dress and a gift for my friends wedding. :)

Me: Thats great. I know you were worried about that.

Her: I knoooow. I'm so relieved! :)

Me: Thats good...

Next day I text her and ask if she has plans for the evening. She simply responds: "Yes :)". But then later asks "Why?"

Me: Well, I just wanted to ask if you would like to hang out before I head back up North

Her: Okay. I'm quite busy at the moment

Me: Okay. I understand.

After this we didn't communicate for a while. I have been busy with work and other family related issues. But I will admit, I still think about her. So yesterday I wrote to her.

Me: Hey you! Hows it going? :)

Her: Hey! Fine thanks, you? :)

Me: Also fine. Would you like to visit me this summer while I'm in Ithica?

Her: Summer is a while away, but sure if I have the time :). I might be travelling

Me: Then you could come before that maybe? :p

Her: Maybe. Why do you want me to come? :)

Me: Because I want you :)

Her: In what way?

Me: I mean, I want to see you.. and then see what will happen

Her: Hmm. I only want to meet up as friends. It wont become more than that.

Me: Okay :)

Her: If you are cool with that, then we can meet up sure....

Me: I'm totally okay with that :)

But I'm not obviously. I don't know if she just isn't attracted to me? We seemed to have lots in common and we always laugh and have an interesting conversation when we do talk. Is it time for me to just move on? Or is there any way to turn this situation around?

Give it to me brutally honest. Don't sugarcoat it, I need some tough love.