Hi all I want your thoughts / give you my take on on this situation with this beautiful Puerto Rican milf I met last night at a bar.

It was a Karaoke bar and I speak Spanish so I easily escalated from making eyes to singing together to dancing together to closing the place down and walking outside together / talking about each other.

Sounds perfect so far. She’s telling me about her life (drops the “I have a daughter” card, then is showing off her sexy Instagram pics - I’m pretty stoic on both things and kinda just move the conversation along).

Ok here is where my liberal beta programming fucked me I think. I have my arms around her, she’s leaning into me super close showing me her photos .... and my uni indoctrination kicks in about verbal consent “Can I kiss you”?

She giggles and says no, not tonight.

Fuck. Then my red pill reasserts itself and I think “why did I ask, the moment was clearly right - I should just try again but without asking shortly”

She still seemed in a really good / interested mood / hadn’t pulled away - so this didn’t seem like a terrible idea in that second haha

I proceed to do so (still move in slowly because the beta in me wants to be kind and give her the option to back off quickly).

She steps back. And I could read the physical change. She was kind of hurt / and lost interest - my reading was that I’d broken her expectations of me, I’d been this amazing guy/amazing night and by failing to go in for the kiss originally / but then pushing for it... I had made it too much about hooking up for her hamster to hold the view of a magical night.

I think the moral of the story is, is if all the signals are there - gofor it, hesitation / verbalizing isn’t in your favor.

Any alternative insight is also welcome!