Hey there,

I've been in a LTR for about a year now and things have slowed down, we aren't doing many new things which directly translates to the bedroom too.

I've established a paying 50/50 frame since the start and have very rarely paid 100% of the receipts for the things we do together. Excluding christmas, easter, birthday...

She's a student and comes from a wealthy family so she doesn't really have to work, her dad gives her enough money to cover bills and live moderately. (not super spoiled at least, semi spoiled).

 She says she has exams so she has no time to work and wants to focus on university. I'm telling you this because she has enough money for us to eat out once or twice a week, maybe go out but that's about it. Anything more expensive than that she will make an excuse that she doesn't have time to go or so on because she's embarrased to ask me to pay for it, which is the right way. Even if she worked it wouldn't be a high paying job she's just a student, wouldn't change much except making her even more money aware.

This has resulted in somewhat a rut, movies, eating out and staying home. I've already made plans in order to fix this with some low cost activites.

But there's traveling and more expensive restaurants/bars that she cannot afford to pay 50/50. (Her dad promised to pay for her summer vacation so we got that), don't get me wrong, I'm not talking 5 star hotels and restaurants, just something average or a little above average.

However, I make more than decent money. She knows I make decent money but not how "decent" and I'm happy with that. Me paying for both of us wouldn't set me back much, or set me back at all. But I'm afraid of it opening the floodgates of her asking for money, expecting me to pay all the time and so on... you know how it goes.

She has a birthday coming up in a few weeks so I got us a good deal on tickets and a hotel to stay in another country. It's a bit above what I wanted to pay for a birthday gift but I'm going too so what the hell.

Do you guys pay for experiences with your LTR?