A few weeks ago I had a date with a "Caley" who showed a high level of investment in me. We had only seen each at a school club (minimal talking between us) for a few weeks with increasing IOIs until I set us a date. We ended up making out and I got her shirt off and rubbed her pussy but couldn't get past ASD. She dropped a lot of comments about me being a player & sweeping her off her feet. Also inferred she would have to go rub one out after getting so hot and heavy, expressed frustration she had work right after and couldn't do it right away. Stated I made her nervous at one point while being teased. She had even told her mom about the date & situation between us.

At the end of the date she asked if it was "official" to which I replied "I could really see this going somewhere but its too early to know."

3 days later I invited her over to my place for dinner later that week. She replied "That sounds nice, but how about somewhere more public for a second date?"

me: "Let me know if you change your mind"

her: "What time are you off on Saturday?"

Me: "Im leaving for a trip this weekend with friends. Seeing you before then would be nice, but Im not going out this week"

No response. That exchange was a few weeks ago & we haven't seen each other since. This week there is another club meeting (Im the president of the club) so we will see each other.

Here is what Im wondering and why: I've been interested in learning what our Student government does for a while but never went to a meeting since our last representative was a weird guy. Caley is now our representative and said before our date that she missed me at the SGA meetings. This week it is on Wednesday before the club meeting. So I have the option of going to the SGA meeting and the Club meeting. Or again skipping the SGA meeting (I've skipped them all)

I've been told that in reaction to "make him wait" we are to withdraw commitment. More like giving the impression we might just not get around to seeing her again. However this advice is in the context of plating. I want to allow this to progress into an LTR if she can make it that far.

Is going to the extra meeting with her (thus yielding some commitment) bad for plating and also bad for LTRing? Or is it good for LTRing? What effect does TRP believe me surprisingly showing up there will have?