so i have been in the red pill for a couple months and i think i have a good general knowledge of it, however implementing it is a little more difficult, only experience in the field brings that, my main problem right now is the following, i recently met with an ex expecting to get some easy pussy with my new knowledge and i ended up having my ass beaten, emotionally broken with no sex, only sad tiems... anyway i talked to her for help, since she wasn't gonna give me pussy i wanted to get that, not help to get woman but help to get myself together, and she was pretty cool and helped me, she is a pretty collected intelligent woman, and told me a pretty basic redpilled advice "invest in yourself for yourself and people will find you attractive" i know that shit, I - K N O W - T H A T - S H I T, i was "monking" i was in monk mode because i know that i have to improve my value, but this is the problem with my routine was the following

1) monk mode is lonely, really fucking lonely, especially when your work doesn't give you a lot of human contact or opportunities to get laid (computer programmer)

2) if one of the goals of monking is to get better in social skill you can't really get a lot better i social skill without practicing, going in the field and talking to people

3) how can you have time to be social and go in the field, if you are monking, just staying at home, working out, learning, and working in you projects

4) how do you manage to monk for long stretches of time without feeling really lonely and sexually depressed

i'm not expecting a definitive answer to my personal struggle, i know most people aren't reclusive computer programmers that don't have money to go out and meet girls, but maybe some personal stories about how did you manage to work out the balance

note: i'm also in no-fap so one of the reasons i searched for her was because i felt an eroding need to unload the gun, and didn't wanted to fap, but also because i thought that i had enough skill and the things would go smoothly, obviously all my expectations were shattered