So I met this 9 through cold approach working a cologne kiosk at a mall, went up and busted her balls over how she must bs people on which colognes are the best, like she just picks a random cologne and says its the best. I then got her number and name and somehow convinced her she needed to simplify her life (she has like the longest name so I said she needed to shorten it. I then turned it into a bit of a callback joke since she said she had 3 jobs. She thought the life simplification was genious and we texted).

Then she ghosted. A week after she ghosted I threw a hail mary text and she immediately began texting again, claiming she had lost her phone and had noones number. So I set up to meet at a restaurant in the mall she works at after her shift ends a few days later (she claimed she has no data on her cell and would get lost trying to find my place).

As soon as she arrives all the chicks in the restaurant go from ignoring me to checking me out (preselection). We have a great time and I suggest going back to my place, but she says she has to drive to a neighboring city early the next day for work. I dont push and just say its cool and walk her to her car.

We get to the mall exit and she turns around. I tell her I wanna kiss her and allofasudden these parents with hundreds of children cone outta nowhere, in a closed mall at 10pm. She says “here?” And I grab her hand and lead her around a corner and go for a kiss. She enjoys the kiss but says it is enough. I walk her back to the exit and we makeout a lil bit before I send her off, since the kids are gone. She texts me after saying we need to meet soon. So I’m thinking sex is in the bag.

But I just remembered now she seemed to stand there not walking away, and even jokingly said she should walk me to my car now. But I was riding the high of kissing this 9 and didn’t realize I probably coulda pulled her to my car then said lets go to my place for an hour then get you an uber home.

To make matters worse I just reread the text after she said we should meet and she had texted me at 2am saying she couldnt sleep and didnt know what to do (but I think I just passed out when I got home so didn’t see this booty call, fuck). Anyways after that she went to the other city, came back to my city, “got sick” and then ghosted again.

The pain burns but it is a mistake I wont make again. I started thinking there must have been something. And it was right there, the 2am booty call, but most importantly, I shouldnt have even acknowledged the “early morning drive”. I think that was a form of last minute resistance. I could have eased off, and then got her to my car and then there would be a natural progression of logistics.

Do you think I shoulda ignored her time constraint (driving to other city) and pushed to get her to my place?