Growing up I had a very strong submissive personality that got off on the idea of a woman dominating me. Needless to say, this never worked and I consistently failed to find such a girl.

Now that I've taken the pill, made many positive lifestyle changes (lost weight, built muscle, steady educational progression, etc.) I've had plenty of experience building my repertoire of dominance and I've yet to have a sub girl leave my bedroom unsatisfied.

But I still have that sub side of mine that I want to play with; there have been a few switch girls that have topped me (ALWAYS after I've topped them, never the other way around) but I feel a complete dissonance between my personality and the behavior -- specifically, I know what I want, I will work towards what I want, and I don't take shit accordingly.

When seeking Dominant women, this sort of straightforward behavior doesn't seem to be productive, though this experiment is virtually (no pun intended) limited to online interactions as I've only just recently started attending BDSM events.

So my question is this: does anyone have experience trying to appeal to their submissive side? If so, what are your thoughts on handling these interactions given your TRP nature? Can I use my dominance/straightforwardness to my advantage rather than as a deterrant?

Thanks, /r/asktrp