There’s this hot tall barbie doll blonde, taller than me that I somehow miraculously managed to kiss and make out with one night at a club. I got her number but accidentally deleted it a week or so later... This all happened just before Christmas.

Fast forward 7 months, she recognises me in the same club... comes up to me and asked questions like why didn’t I message her etc... I was so glad she approached because I didn’t recognise her but I remember checking her out thinking she was smoking hot.

Anyway we spoke and then we ended up outside. She starts telling me her life story with her toxic bf and so on. I end up moving in to kiss her and she pulls away. I just say “that’s alright I’ll kiss you later then”. 10 minutes later I do the same thing, she hesitates but I grab her chin and lock lips. Once that happened we ended up dancing and making out all night.

(I’m already thinking at this point. This girl is in a toxic relationship. She’s not getting any sex. She’s cheating on her BF. All she wants is some fucking excitement)

Now, I don’t know how to do this with every other girl, but I do understand frame in this case. I put my needs and wants above hers... in my reality her and I were going to be making out all night. I just held my frame and waited until she accepted it...

QUESTION: Is this the same thing when it comes to sex? I assume it would be, and it would just be an escalation of what I was already doing, correct me if I’m wrong though.

Her and I were messaging, being flirty but having little to no funny banter. She said I could come around one night for a movie but it was said in a way that it just might not happen for a long time... Today I just thought I’m going to push the button and not worry about the outcome. Just thought I would act the same way I did about us making out but instead do it about sex... Be confident, not give a fuck what I say or be outcome dependant. Let her know I find her sexy and want to fuck her and just dodge every shit test and ‘😱 Rude’ message she throws at me as if I’m taking the same approach as before ‘you may not want to fuck me now, but give it 10 minutes’

Am I doing the right thing here? Is escalating it to sex the same thing you just gotta take the leap and be firm with your frame?