I've been in an LTR with kids since before finding Red pill 4 years ago at age 32. I got swole and lean and developed a really IDGAF attitude.

Before, she was well behaved (good mother, did her part, displayed affection), though she was overweight, sex was worse and less frequent, etc.

Now: - She is lean and lifts hard (I started watching what I eat, she started weighing her carrots). At times I tell her to eat more. - She is way more into sex than me. She'll plan her schedule to ensure we have time to fuck. - If we have a difference of opinion, I get my way.

She gets angry sometimes --> I ignore it or make fun of her --> She caves and apologizes. Every time.

She's upset or wants something --> Me (without anger): "I'm done talking about this" --> Her: "Okay." Done.

I have all the power, and we both know it. Despite taking good care of herself, we both believe that I have higher SMV. When we're relaxed together and talking (say, after sex), though, she'll mention how I'm "kind of mean" and "gruff".

Last Saturday we were out together. I made a sexual joke, and she had a funny comeback and we were laughing together.

She said "Haha, you deserve me . . . not sure I deserve you."

Me: "What do you mean?"

Her, definitely not joking: "Well, you are kind of mean sometimes."

I think she's stressed that she doesn't have power and I have options. In her mind, if she messes up (or even if she doesn't), there's lots of younger, prettier chicks I could go fuck, and she's replaceable.

I talked about that conversation with her later and she said she would be happier if I got her flowers more often and thanked her more often. That those "Would go a long way." I joked that she should thank me every time I come home from work.

I love her and do want her to be happier. I'm pretty sure I could show her more comfort without undermining my place. On the other hand, earlier that Saturday she had gotten upset at me about some work of hers I'd accidentally undone. I made fun of her then and she ended up apologizing. It's possible this was just on her mind that day.

Suggestions on this?