Hi,

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Made this account to post here. I've been reading TRP for a year or so and have applied some of the principles, and I have definitely made improvements in my life and LTR. But something has been bugging me lately about my LTR.

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We are both 25, she recently moved across the country with me about 6 months ago (i know i know), been together 2 yrs. I moved for a job and she decided to move with me, it was that or break up I said. The job I am in is specialized, and I've really made it in my career after working and school for years and its only up from here, probably make over 100k in 2-3 and more down the road. (not a brag, just saying I have goals). I've been gyming lost 30lbs so far, trying to socializing more, several hobbies etc, trying to improve myself.

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My issue is she is not really doing any of that. She has alot of qualities that TRP looks for (and of course I want), great father daughter relationship, I am her first, she barely posts on social media, and does most of what I say (cooks/cleans good sex). Overall I am happy with it, we do have fun doing things, but sometimes I think I could be doing more. I am a driven guy, while she doesn't have any hobbies except for netflix and hiking, most of what we do is with me or she doesn't do much. Though she does gym and has been losing weight.

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Secondly I have tried to get her to look into school or something, to pursue a career of some kind, as shes had min wage jobs for the last 2 years, switching between them. She keeps saying "I know I know" but nothing comes of it. The lack of drive in her bugs me, but I don't know if it should or if i should care? I feel its kind of unfair of me to judge her by my relative success as at our age it can be difficult to find what you want to do. Lots of people don't have their shit together.

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I'm sure part of this is my fault, as early in our relationship I was of the mindset to let her take her time to figure it out as we were both in uni at the time.

We have talked about it once or twice, and she agrees with me. I told her that shes comfortable and is being lazy, then she'll apply to one job the next day and then stop. I just feel this will get boring down the road, so do I wait for her to figure it out or what.

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Is this grass is greener kind of thing? Should I be judging her by what I have done so far?

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TLDR: GF (of 2 yrs) is comfortable and has no drive for hobbies/career, while I do and have been and it has been bugging me recently.

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Anyways, thx