I'll keep this concise. Acquired a new plate 4 weeks ago. Met in a bar, she texts me 1 weeks later, we fuck on the first night. Which she didn't expect. This was around 2-3 weeks ago.

After that, a lot of shit happened (family death, work stress,...). I subconsciously knew my frame was slipping but I wasn't really 'aware' of it. Over the course of the 4 days following that I texted her twice. Looking for comfort basically. (Yes I know.) Both times she couldn't meet up (for what seemed to be legitimate reasons). I didn't respond after her last reply, since this is when I "snapped out of it".

There was nothing inherently needy about the texts - purely logistical - but just the short time frame (2x over 4 days) of it makes me doubt how it would come across.

In any case since then (5 days ago) I haven't sent a thing. Focusing on myself more. But I'm wondering if you guys have any habits or protocols for when shit legitimately hits the fan and affects your frame.