So this will be a long winded post...

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tl;dr: Who do you actually talk to about shit to get it off your chest? Everything I've been reading is more or less "suck it up faggot and deal".

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background

In my 20s shit was good. Before I even knew about chad/plates/beta/etc. I wasn't chad by any means (under 6', average face, terrible smile, not in terribly good shape) but it didn't matter. I was chad. I could fuck women without trying. Dudes wanted to be just like me. I had a good job making 6 figures. I lived in nice apartments, at one point owned my own house with 2 of my "dream" cars sitting in the garage. Had a great LTR with my GF who actually encouraged me to go out and fuck other women. The other women didn't care that they were just on the side. Everything was perfect and aside from the occasional work stress nothing ever really got to me.

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current day

  1. Living in a new city. My business that I started a few years ago has completely fallen apart. I'm 40-50k in debt. The job I'm at currently is about to shut down and I have zero other job prospects. I've been fucked 3 times since I've lived here (one of them was actually decent). The women that have approached me have either been ugly as sin or old as dirt. Been going to the gym for 2 years with no positive changes in physical appearance. Tried getting back into an MMA gym (did that in my 20s) and have been getting my ass handed to me. On top of that I'm so sore/exhausted that I've not been going to the regular gym anymore. I drive a shitty car that is more practical than anything.

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side story

Everything came to a head the other night hanging out with a friend of mine. He is Chad to a T (6', very good shape (steroids), money from his family). We are hanging with a female friend of his that is absolutely stunning to me. He hasn't banged her, doesn't really see her that way. Anyways mostly hang with him, chat with her for a bit as well. End up going home drunk as fuck. She goes back to his place later that night and apparently he hits some LMR. As he is telling me this the next day he just says "honestly I'm way out of her league anyways". Fucking gutshot. A single dad with little/no ambition (his family takes care of him) can just throw away the hottest chick I've seen in a long time. Partially I realize it's because he has options due to the 2 plates he is currently spinning.

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So I feel like shit. How the fuck did I lose everything? I never fucked up and got married or had kids or anything like that. My life is shit. I want to vent but definitely not to my guy friends and absolutely not to my female friends (already fucked up several of those because of my need to vent). Who the fuck do you talk to? How do you not just want to die? Do you just bottle it up and then do what with it exactly? On several occasions I just want to sit and fucking cry. I have no idea what to do or how to get back to my old life. So how do you deal? How do you cope? Clearly I have completely forgotten how I used to do that in my 20s, and none of the posts in TRP seem to address that point.