I'm new to this and this would be my first time after a long LTR I broke off about a month ago.

Met her the other day off tinder. Met her in person the day after. Talked for a while. Texted her a bit, escalating in text. Flirting. Etc. Yeah I know not the best idea but in person it didn't happen because of the place we met and the way we were. First time meeting a girl off tinder.

Anyways we texted for a bit, flirted, talked about sex and such.

This morning she hits me with this:

Her: "tbh I don't think I want to have sex anymore. Not because I don't like you but because I don't think I'll be able to with someone who I haven't been with for a while"

Me: "Alright"

Her: "Ok cool"

I haven't talked to her since then, that was earlier today. We were planning to meet up soon and she didn't explicitly cancel that so I'm not going to talk to her for a bit and then ask her if we're still on the night before/that morning. ( probably the night before we planned early in the day though )

What I'm assuming will happen is this after I break radio silence and ask if were still meeting up:

Her: "something along the lines of were not having sex you know that right?"

Me: "We'll just make out" something like that

because if she agrees to come with me back to my place to "netflix and chill" as was originally proposed she's obviously thinking we might have sex and if it's "oh it just happened woops" rather than premeditated "yeah lets bone woo" her ASD is satisifed and no worries.

If we don't have sex but we do mess around even after me escalating and such then that's cool I'll try once more with the other idea we had of hanging out and then bring her back to my place and try again. if that doesn't work then soft next won't bother anymore.

Perhaps I should have just made a joke out of her saying it and have already said "yeah we'll just make out" or whatever but that's too late now and this is what I'll do. Just wanted to make sure I'm not completley off base here.

In the end if it doesn't work out I learned two things:

  1. Don't text that much. If escalation wasn't properly made in person sure get her to that point of her flirting and such and then stop, schedule meet up, shuttup.

  2. Don't let this affect you as much. How? Keep busy. Do things. Today I just laid in bed after doing what I needed to watching netflix. Not the best.