I have been hooking up with this girl exclusively for the past 6 months. She wanted a relationship, I didn't, so things started to turn sour. She would constantly throw comments at me, full of negativity, about me not liking her, about how she's insecure about me, etc....

Anyways, I gave in. I know this was a mistake. I said, very hesitantly, that she could be my girlfriend. She felt the hesitance (it would have been hard not to) and this let to a deep conversation (another mistake) about why I was hesitant to date her.

Side Note: I am not completely sold on TRP in 2 ways

  1. I have religious beliefs
  2. I am not opposed to LTRs and Marriage

The main reason why I was hesitant to date her was because she did not have the same beliefs as me. This is important to me because I want a relationship that turns into marriage - one where I share common beliefs with my wife. Cuffing her up would make the inevitable split harder on the both of us.

Somehow, she was still wanting a relationship and I was once again convinced. However, now she knew it wasn't going to work out. She would continue to say a bunch of negative shit about the same old stuff. It kept eating at her and I kept getting annoyed at all the BS, so we talked again.

Basically, she realized that dating was not a smart move, but she didn't want to stop seeing me cold turkey. I'll be honest, I didn't want that either. 6 months of great sex, usually more than once daily, is really hard to beat. We wound up as an unlabeled couple with a "don't ask, don't tell" agreement. I can't say that I was happy about the last part. I went home and did some thinking. By myself, away from my only source of sex from the past 6 months.

It was then that I realized that nothing healthy could come from that and decided to break things off.

It has been about a week since then. I'm chillin' with my boy on a Friday night - didn't go out because there's an early start for day drinking tomorrow - and this girl snapchats me "I want sex". This was an hour ago. I haven't slayed in a week, and I really want to now. I decided not to reply tonight, but it still got me thinking. Am I slowing myself down if I have the occasional rendezvous with her? Or do I need to cut her off completely?

I could just plate her, reduce contact to minimal, and hook up when convenient. I just don't want to fall in the same trap.

Thanks Gents